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Bridesmaids and hotels...??

sshirazi79sshirazi79 member
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So my finace and I are havng our wedding at my parents house in Ventura Cty. We origianly thought of having a destination wedding, but since we wanted people to come decided against it. My one recent dilema is a good amount of my bridesmaids are asking about hotels, if they can crash at my fiances or my parents house, as they are on a budget..? I get that its tough times, but I cant tell everyone how many times I have paid for the hotel room for many many weddings and would have never considered asking for free accomidations. My parents have money, but I dont feel that it is thier duty to pay for hotels for the bridesmaids. Am I off course, and if not is there a better way to approach these questions? I also dont want to have a house full of people the night before the wedding?
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  • lisarose7lisarose7
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    edited December 2011
    One of my wedding books says that the bride and groom are responsible for paying for the WP's lodging, but I've never heard of anyone actually doing that.  If you don't have room for everyone, go ahead and tell them that.  Then suggest inexpensive hotels/motels nearby and mention the possibility of the BMs sharing rooms.
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  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    You absolutely are not responsible for their accomodations. Still if they can't afford it, be gracious and let them know you understand that they can't afford to be in the wedding. 
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011

    Let them know what hotels are available for what price.  Are you blocking rooms to get a discount?  Do you have a corporate rate they can use?  Also see if they can share rooms to save money.  Even if they don't know each other, I bet they'd be willing.

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  • sshirazi79sshirazi79 member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes, I got three different price point hotels with blocked rates and I have told all the guests including the bm's. The rates are pretty decent (90/night). I just dont know a good way to ccordinate the room rates and them sharing rooms to avoid my family and I having to pay for them. Maybe I should email them all the room rates and encourage them to talk to one another to share rooms? THoughts?
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    Is $90/night your lowest price point?! No wonder they're asking for other accommodations! 

    I would forward everyone's info to each other, and let them know what CHEAP hotels are in the area - Holiday Inns, Days Inns, Motel 6's, things like that. Then let them make their own arrangements. 
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  • psichickpsichick
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    edited December 2011
    we are paying for our WP if they choose to stay in the hotel the night before or after. the way that we see it is they are honoring us by standing with us on the day of our wedding, and we are basically requiring them to be there early for pictures, to get ready, etc so the least that we can do is make it as easy on them as possible. guests have the option to say no once they see the price of the hotel if they want, the wedding party does not......
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  • sshirazi79sshirazi79 member
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    edited December 2011
    gotcha, I booked two rooms and sent out an email letting the gals know if they would like to stay together they can there- hopefully that will work!
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