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GUEST LIST HELP!!!

braginbragin
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We have decided to have our ceremony and reception at the same location. The ceremony will be held outdoors, while the reception will be held indoors at the hall on site. The problem is that the hall can only hold 150 and we have so many people that we want to share our day with. Our idea was to have an open wedding with a private reception, however, we cannot figure out how to pull it off without offending anyone. ANY IDEAS?! HELP!
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Re: GUEST LIST HELP!!!

  • cai0311cai0311
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    edited December 2011
    There is no way of doing this without offending someone.  I have been to weddings where there was an announcement after the ceremony that a reception by invitation only is being held for family and close friends.  I was invited to the reception, but I would not have been offended if I wasn't.  I understand the cost of a wedding.

    But, having the ceremony and reception at the same location is a sticky matter.  Guests are going to assume they are invited even if their invitation doesn't say so because everything is at the same place.

    I suggest either spliting the location or cutting the number you invite.

    As a side note, I never bring a gift to a wedding that I am not invited to the reception.  I figure if I am not close to the couple and merit a reception invitation, I don't need to drop $100 or more on a gift.  And I don't mean this in a snarky way - just stating what I do.
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  • braginbragin
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for the tip. I have also been to weddings where I wasnt invited to the reception and I was not offended either, but not everyone understands the cost of feeding hundreds of people. And I'm with you on the not buying a gift because I would not either. Thanks again!
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  • HarvestKarmaHarvestKarma member
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    edited December 2011
    If you decide to cut your guest list, try cutting out groups of people instead of individuals.  i.e. cut out all great aunts/uncles, cousins you aren't close to, co-workers etc.  I understand there are always people that you "have" to invite but in reality, it's your wedding and if you have limited space it's important to include only the people that you are closest to.

    I agree, it's not offensive to invite only some guests to the reception if the ceremony and reception are in different locations.  However, you said that your ceremony and reception are at the same place and likely guests who are only invited to the ceremony will assume they are also invited to the reception because, hey, it's right there. 

    I hope you can come up with something to either narrow your guest list or change your venue somehow!  Good luck :)
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