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Giving away of the bride which father?

ValeriekgreenwoodValeriekgreenwood member
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Background: so my parents are divorced and both are remarried. Step father has been more of a father though and he's been around since I was 8. And my biological father lives in the same town as me but other than handling the financial responsibility of parenting (sort of) he hasnt been much of a father.
Im deciding how to handle this tradition. I have two ideas. One is to have both step father and biological father walk me down the aisle the other is just to have my step father do it.
Anyone have suggestions or opinions?
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Re: Giving away of the bride which father?

  • redheadfsuredheadfsu member
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    It is completely your decision. And I sincerely hope your parents can be adults and understand whatever you choose. I would however take each out (by themselves) to lunch and tell them nicely as it might be a shock/ might hurt them. But some ideas I have seen on this board before:

    1. You could have both walk you at the same time.

    2. You could have bio walk half and then step walk the second half. (or vice versa)

    3. You could pick either (bio or step) to walk the entire thing.

    4. Walk by yourself

    5. Have your FI walk you down

    6. have your mother or someone else walk with you.

    Good luck. Just remember it is completely your decision.

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  • Lark2013Lark2013
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    While I do agree with PP that it is totally your decision, if I were you, I would have my step father walk me since he has been more of a father figure that your bio dad.  My cousin did this, and while her bio dad may have been hurt, it meant a lot to her step dad since he really was the one who raised her.
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  • travistanyatravistanya member
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    edited April 2012
    I am in the same boat as you. My step-father has been in my life since I was 6 and has been more of a father to me than my biological dad ever has been. However, I believe that my dad is still my dad so I am having them both walk me down the aisle. The JOP is going to ask his usual question about who gives me away and they are both going to say, "We do".

    ETA: I wouldn't be who I am today without either of them. My step-father has been my dad in the "true" sense of the word but I am here today because of my bio dad. He has also shaped my life in many ways, good and bad.
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  • ValeriekgreenwoodValeriekgreenwood member
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    hm thank you, that is all good advice. Im leaning towards having both of them walk me I thinkk.
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