3 MOHs...All doing a speech?

Re: 3 MOHs...All doing a speech?

• MyNameIsNot member

  

  October 2012

  They are both rude and ridiculous to ask anyone to give a toast.  That's something someone volunteers for, not something you ask someone to do.

  
  

  If you don't want to give a toast or prefer to do it in a group, say "sorry, but I'm not comfortable doing this solo.  We can do it as a group, or just skip it altogether.  Let me know what you prefer."

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• Benny618

  

  October 2012

  If I knew the other MOH's I'd probably suggest putting our heads together and making one awesome speech.  WIth 3 people you could even set up a slideshow of some sort.  I wouldn't worry about what they "asked for" because they really shouldn't be asking for anything, speeches are not mandatory.

  

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• xlove2shopxx

  

  October 2012

  I didn't really know it was more of a voluntary thing. I always thought you gave a speech if thats what the bride and groom wanted at their reception. I am planning on asking their wedding planner what her thoughts are also. I do know all the MOH, and I thought maybe we could do a combined speech anyways and then they wouldn't ask for individual because we wouldn't be prepared. The wedding is in a little over a week. The wedding is pretty formal and I think they just want it to come off formal and traditional, and to them that means us all doing speeches. 

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• Benny618

  

  October 2012

  I don't really see the connection between the wedding being formal and traditional and the need for each person to make their own speech.  If anything I find it not traditional to have 3 MOH and 3 BM personally.  Also, I'd be bored out of my mind if I had to listen to 6 speeches, not including if the parents speak.  I think you should talk to the other MOHs and decide yourselves.  The wedding is in a week, the bride probably has a lot more going on then to dictate who must make speeches at her wedding and how they should do them.

  

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• itzMS member

  

  October 2012

  I agree with Benny. At the very least you should collaborate with the other MOHs so you don't all say the same thing, or pick one of you to speak on behalf of all.
  
  I've done a group speech as a bridal party member once (at the bride's request/demand). Our speech was 2-3 minutes total, and we split it up so each of us read a few sentences.

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• eelsbury08

  

  October 2012

  Wow. I just thought it was something that was done by the MOH and Bestmen. To me it just seems like you just want to complain and whine because you didnt realize what you were signing up for.

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• Jen4948 member

  

  October 2012

  Speeches seem to me to be a pretty standard part of a BM or MOH job at a wedding.
  
  That said, I think that if more than one person holds the role and is giving a speech, you should coordinate and keep it short.

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• heidijoyanke

  

  November 2012 edited November 2012

  I am going to have 2 MOH's for my wedding.  However I didn't ask either of them to make a speech and if neither of them felt comfortable doing it I would not be upset in the slightest. 
  I didn't ask them to be MOH's because they will make a great speech-I asked them because they are the closest people to me and I can't imagine not having them there to get me through my special day.
  In fact I know that only one of them will be making a speech if any because the other hates talking in front of people.  That being said I would say to do one of two things: either you all coordinate and do short and sweet speeches, or coordinate and do one speech together and have one person read it-making sure to mention all three of you wrote it.  This way it keeps the guests from getting bored but also lets the bride and groom know that all three of you had a hand in it-to avoid anyone feeling left out or slighted.
  
  Hope this helps you!

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