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KnotAmanda · October 2012

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Maggie0829 · October 2012

No and please do not promote this. It is incredibly rude to dictate what your Mother wears to your wedding. She is an adult and can dress herself in an appropriate way.

GoodLuckBear14 · October 2012

Hell no. I went shopping with her for it. She picked out a dress and asked what I thought. I asked her if she was confortable in it, did she like it. She did so I told her she looked gorgeous and to get it.

ftr, I did the same with my MOH asking only that she pick any shade of red.

GoodLuckBear14 · October 2012

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[QUOTE]Goodluck -- I think agreeing on a shade is the same as asking for a certain color I think Amanda worded this to get NO as an answer. Doesnt mean it is OK for MOB to wear black when asked not to.
Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE]

Ok. I seriously want the name, phone number and email address of the admissions officer at NYU because your reading comprehension skills are that of a kindergartner.

It was my MOH - you know, part of the wedding party - from whom I requested a red dress. Not my mother.

MairePoppy · October 2012

I'm an MOB. My daughter knows I'm capable of dressing appropriately because I'm an adult and have been dressing myself for decades. She told me to wear whatever I wanted because she's not a control freak.

Maggie0829 · October 2012

OMFG! Well then maybe KnotAmanda should make a poll asking whether or not it is ok for the MOB to wear black. I am sure you will be interested in seeing how many people think it is perfectly acceptable.

Maggie0829 · October 2012

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[QUOTE]No, I think the question should be to moms, if you daughter, the bride, asked you not to wear black, would you still wear black?
Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE]

There is a difference between asking and telling. If I were a Mother and was told by my daughter to not do something as dumb as wearing a black dress I would slap her across the face so as to knock some sense and respect back into her. But if I was asked politely by my daughter to not wear black I would happily oblige.

ETA: And in the post you are referring to the bride told her mother what not to wear which is disrespectful and rude.

GoodLuckBear14 · October 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Poll for The Knot Magazine! : There is a difference between asking and telling. If I were a Mother and was told by my daughter to <strong>"not do something as dumb as wearing a black dress"</strong> I would slap her across the face so as to knock some sense and respect back into her. But if I was asked politely by my daughter to not wear black I would happily oblige. ETA: And in the post you are referring to the bride told her mother what not to wear which is disrespectful and rude.
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

FTFY for someone else's clarification. Although, based on everything else she has posted, I don't think she is going to see the difference.

Hint - " " means someone else (ie the daughter) is saying it.

samantha24p · October 2012

I ASKED my mother to not wear black. I told her she can wear anything she wants but I'd prefer her not to wear black. The choice was hers. She found a navy dress that we both love on her. You can't tell my Mom what to do, or she'll do the opposite. I find she's always willing to compromise if you ask her nicely. She an adult and likes to be treated with respect. She had also asked what I prefer, otherwise I wouldn't have asked her not to wear black.

GoodLuckBear14 · October 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Poll for The Knot Magazine! : So did you wear black??
Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE]

Do you think MOBs whose daughters respect them enough to understand they can dress themselves all run out looking for black dresses? What does it matter if she wore black?

You need professional help.

samantha24p · October 2012

NYU did I just read that you'd make your Mom sit in the back if she wore black? That is the most disrespectful thing ever. That is your Mother. She gave birth to you.

GoodLuckBear14 · October 2012

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[QUOTE]NYU did I just read that you'd make your Mom sit in the back if she wore black? That is the most disrespectful thing ever. That is your Mother. She gave birth to you.
Posted by samantha24p[/QUOTE]

Don't bother trying to reason with her. If you are going to read through that thread I recommend that you get halfway through an adult beverage before you start reading.

samantha24p · October 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Poll for The Knot Magazine! : Don't bother trying to reason with her. If you are going to read through that thread I recommend that you get halfway through an adult beverage before you start reading.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

I tryed to read but got so annoyed before I finished the first page. Who treats there parents that way? She's not nice to her father either.

GoodLuckBear14 · October 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Poll for The Knot Magazine! : I tryed to read but got so annoyed before I finished the first page. Who treats there parents that way? She's not nice to her father either.
Posted by samantha24p[/QUOTE]

A friend filled me in on some of what she's been posting on E. Like I said, professional help is needed.

samantha24p · October 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Poll for The Knot Magazine! : A friend filled me in on some of what she's been posting on E. Like I said, professional help is needed.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

Agreed!

MairePoppy · October 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Poll for The Knot Magazine! : So did you wear black??
Posted by NYUgirl100[/QUOTE]

You missed the point. I will be wearing what I want to wear. My daughter did not make any demands in regards to the colors/styles/lengths of the MOB/MOG dresses because she is not rude. We will both be seated in the front row, no matter what color we wear.

warpedredpenguin · October 2012

I helped my mom look fir a dress, because she was a bit intimidated by the process. She's a plus sized woman, and most of the typical "Mother of the Bride" dresses aren't made for bigger women, and the ones that are looked dowdy. But the color, length, style, etc, were all up to her, I just helped her find what she wanted. I would never tell my mother how to dress. She's an adult.

Benny618 · October 2012

My mom and fmil WANT their dresses to compliment the bm dresses (not match, but they don't want to clash). I don't care either way, but I think it's nice that they WANT to do that. We have been discussing colors that compliment the pink bm dresses (almost anything) and my mom even considered black, which is fine with me. That being said, she decided against it because she WANTS to wear something that she feels will make her stand out a bit more than she feels she will in a black dress, which is also fine with me! I appreciate that my mom and fmil want my input, but I just want them to feel comfortable and beautiful at my wedding!

Peledreamsofrain · October 2012

Being willing to publically humiliate a family member over a color is mindbogglingly evil. That would officially label you as a "Bad Person" tm. You might as well go kick some puppies, slap a few random kids, and push an elderly person into the curb while you are at it. That is some messed up stuff, and you are going to find yourself with no one to turn to when life kicks you in the kidneys. Family is sacred.

Lauderdale Pink · October 2012

As the MOB, I fully respect my daughter's taste and would never pick out a dress that she did not approve of. My mother and grandmother had a line they loved "He who pays the piper calls the tunes". To me, that was just a power play. The wedding is for my daughter and her finace. It should be their vision and the result should please them, although I am sure my future son-in-law will leave the dress choices to my daughter. With all the disagreements that can come up in wedding planning, what I wear should never be on that list.

emeejeeayen · October 2012

My mom works (literally) in a dark basement making sound effects for movies all day and cannot wear clothing that makes noise. Thus, her wardrobe is predominantly sweat pants. She has requested a lot of feedback from me as far as her dress for the wedding mostly because fashion is probably what she feels least confident about in life. When I was home we found a very nice black dress that she looks lovely in and feels comfortable in, and if she finds something better between now and the wedding - GREAT! but if not, it put her mind at ease to know she has a dress that both of us like.

I don't think dictating is the way to go about it.

tlc35 · October 2012

OMG seriously, my Mom can wear whatever makes her happy as can FI mom. There was a feud between my cousins who are twin sisters because one found the dress that was worn to her wedding by the other sister inappropriate. This fight went on for years!

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