Is it just me or....I need advise

CreoleBride30 · June 2012

Okay ladies...I need your advise. I have concerns of guests taking photos and/or videos and placing them on any of the social sites (ie: twitter, FB, and any other social sites out there)

How do I eloquently say on our wedding website and/or cermony program that we do not want any guests to post any photos or videos on any social sites?

Here's the thing. I do not mind pictures at the reception, but I do feel people will be posting them online. The posting online thing is what bothers me. How do I handle this? What are your thoughts on this subject matter?

TIA,

Chalya

keysmit · June 2012

Hey Cha,

I have a friend who posted this on her site, See below.. Hope that helps.. :

We ask that you respect our privacy on our "Big Day". Please refrain from taking pictures, tweeting, and facebooking about our ceremony.We would like to share this day only with you our invited guests.Thank you in advance for your cooperation.

Jana711 · June 2012

I understand what you're saying, but I have a different view. Believe it or not, I actually enjoyed seeing the pictures that our friends and family posted on Facebook. It was like our first sneak peek at the photos. We waited quite a while to get our professional pictures back, so we were actually glad to see some pictures of our special day. Most people only posted one or two pictures so it wasn't like anyone added an album. It was fun looking at them the morning after the wedding.

To answer your question, you could post something on the website along the lines of "please refrain from sharing pictures online until the bride and groom have shared photos" or isn't there some way on FB to prevent yourself from being tagged in photos?

M1ssJ · June 2012

you could post on the website and have a picture sharing site like picasa or flickr for guests but.... honestly you can't control what people post and IMO I think once you invite people your day is about you and your guests. I'd be kind of annoyed if someone told me what I could put on my FB page

thedivav · June 2012

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[QUOTE]Hey Cha, I have a friend who posted this on her site, See below.. Hope that helps.. : We ask that you respect our privacy on our "Big Day". Please refrain from taking pictures, tweeting, and facebooking about our ceremony.We would like to share this day only with you our invited guests.Thank you in advance for your cooperation.
Posted by keysmit[/QUOTE]

You can try this but people will do what they want
But me being the arse I am will post just cause u said not to...*told yall I am extra* lol

CreoleBride30 · June 2012

But me being the arse I am will post just cause u said not to...told yall I am extra lol Posted by thedivav LMBO! Yes indeed! Yea, that's how I'm thinking a few would feel. It's mostly family at the wedding so this is very minute in the grand scheme of my future husband and I being married. But, I did want to get y'all opinion on it. For the most part, i feel that I wont have to say anything ya know...make it into an issue because most of my guest wouldn't do it. I do LOVE posing for the camera. I just wanna make sure if they do post it, it betta be a cute pic! I am quick to say,"let me see how that pic came out. If it ain't right we gotta do this again" shameonme Thanks for your opinions ladies! Yall rock!!!!

MrsHoward2Be · June 2012

I wish people wouldn't do that. Taking pictures is fine but don't start posting on fb and twitter before my ceremony and reception is over.

[Deleted User] · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_is-it-just-me-ori-need-advise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:564b9f4c-557a-4318-8559-da36245c0f7cPost:7fc85dc4-dd26-4abc-b8f4-e93834623608">Re: Is it just me or....I need advise</a>:
[QUOTE]Hey Cha, I have a friend who posted this on her site, See below.. Hope that helps.. : We ask that you respect our privacy on our "Big Day". Please refrain from taking pictures, tweeting, and facebooking about our ceremony.We would like to share this day only with you our invited guests.Thank you in advance for your cooperation.
Posted by keysmit[/QUOTE]

I love this wording.

and I totally get that at the end of the day they'll do what they like, but unless you have the bride/groom's explicit permission it's rude to me. It's one thing if the pics are uploaded to a private location like the couple's password protected website or the well meaning friend sends them to the couple, or if the pics are of the guests themselves but my problem with social media is pictures of someone else aren't yours to share.

rowenac82 · June 2012

I must admit I am one of those people that's the first to post pictures from an event I attended but unlike most I ask permission to do so. As others said, you could make an attempt to prevent the posting of your pictures but people will do what they will do.

CaseynMike · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_is-it-just-me-ori-need-advise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:564b9f4c-557a-4318-8559-da36245c0f7cPost:1c8ef5b2-392b-41a9-a8ee-fcdd1106a1e1">Re: Is it just me or....I need advise</a>:
[QUOTE]I must admit I am one of those people that's the first to post pictures from an event I attended but unlike most I ask permission to do so. As others said, you could make an attempt to prevent the posting of your pictures but people will do what they will do.
Posted by rowenac82[/QUOTE]

This is sooo me!! My dad is a professional photographer sooooo I am always taking pics and posting....of course I always ask first!

Elizabeth80 · June 2012

This:) We loved looking at our friends FB photo's from our wedding. We had almost 300 photo's by the end of our honeymoon posted on facebook. I saved them all to my phone and started a new album out of them on my own page. We loved it because it gave us a different perspective of the wedding and some friends have great camera's so it gaves us some great no pro pics to share with friends, family and co workers who couldn't attend.

I definitey understand wanting to screen them before friends post pics. There were a few of me dancing at the reception or from behind that I definitely could have done with out lmbo

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[QUOTE]I understand what you're saying, but I have a different view. Believe it or not, I actually enjoyed seeing the pictures that our friends and family posted on Facebook. It was like our first sneak peek at the photos. We waited quite a while to get our professional pictures back, so we were actually glad to see some pictures of our special day. Most people only posted one or two pictures so it wasn't like anyone added an album. It was fun looking at them the morning after the wedding. To answer your question, you could post something on the website along the lines of "please refrain from sharing pictures online until the bride and groom have shared photos" or isn't there some way on FB to prevent yourself from being tagged in photos?
Posted by Jana711[/QUOTE]

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