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July 2012 Weddings
XP- Grandmother doesn't want her picture taken... HELP!
Posted this on the Photo board, but realized not many people are there, so I'm asking you girls:
So when my mom and dad split up when I was only a few months old, my mom and I moved in with my grandparents until she remarried when I was 4. After that I stayed EVERY Saturday night until I was in 10th grade and then I was still there everyday after school to visit. My grandmother is like my other mom.
Before I was born, they discovered she had MS. She did fine for years. Then she needed to use the wall a lot of the time to help her balance, then it was a walker. Then it was a walker in the house and a wheelchair outside. Now its a wheelchair all the time and my grandpa uses a lift to get her from the bed to the chair. She doesn't walk or even stand and pivot anymore. She has a catheter bag and she's really uncomfortable.
I made sure the wedding was only 1 1/2 blocks away from her house because I need her to be there and that way, she won't even need to worry about using a car. She's agreed to come as long as she isn't sick, but she's refusing to have an pictures taken because she's uncomfortable with the way she is now. I know that her "pee bag" bothers her, but we can put it in a bag or I talked to her home health nurse and he'll give us a leg strap bag to use for the day. I've tried telling her I'll bring someone in to do her hair and everything if thats what it takes, but she still doesn't like it. I even told her I'd be willing to go to her house before or after the ceremony to get a few pictures if thats what she wanted.
How can I make her see that I don't care what she looks like? I want a picture with my grandmother on my wedding day. Any suggestions?
So when my mom and dad split up when I was only a few months old, my mom and I moved in with my grandparents until she remarried when I was 4. After that I stayed EVERY Saturday night until I was in 10th grade and then I was still there everyday after school to visit. My grandmother is like my other mom.
Before I was born, they discovered she had MS. She did fine for years. Then she needed to use the wall a lot of the time to help her balance, then it was a walker. Then it was a walker in the house and a wheelchair outside. Now its a wheelchair all the time and my grandpa uses a lift to get her from the bed to the chair. She doesn't walk or even stand and pivot anymore. She has a catheter bag and she's really uncomfortable.
I made sure the wedding was only 1 1/2 blocks away from her house because I need her to be there and that way, she won't even need to worry about using a car. She's agreed to come as long as she isn't sick, but she's refusing to have an pictures taken because she's uncomfortable with the way she is now. I know that her "pee bag" bothers her, but we can put it in a bag or I talked to her home health nurse and he'll give us a leg strap bag to use for the day. I've tried telling her I'll bring someone in to do her hair and everything if thats what it takes, but she still doesn't like it. I even told her I'd be willing to go to her house before or after the ceremony to get a few pictures if thats what she wanted.
How can I make her see that I don't care what she looks like? I want a picture with my grandmother on my wedding day. Any suggestions?
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Re: XP- Grandmother doesn't want her picture taken... HELP!
Is it possible to tell her that nobody will see the pictures - except you and your husband-to-be (and the photographer)? That you make sure they're not in any public online galleries and you simply want them to be able to cherish at a later date?
I honestly don't know. You are stuck in a very rough situation.
Hmm..rough rough rough!
I definitely agree with BrightFirefly & michelle about stressing the importance of her to you.