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Attendence feelers

dhinchdhinch member
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Hi all!

 I'm planning a destination wedding in Sanibell Island, FL. I am also having a reception/party at home for those people that can not attend the wedding in Florida. Is it tacky to send out an engagement announcement/save the date asking wether or not that person would be interested in coming to the Florida wedding? Not necessarily an RSVP just a feeler. I'm really not sure which people I'm inviting would come to the Florida wedding and would like to get an idea of how many people would come so I can plan accordingly. Thanks for all of your thoughts!
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  • quotequeenquotequeen member
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    Yes.  You can send the STD (engagement announcements really aren't appropriate except in the newspaper) and people may tell you whether or not they think they'll be able to make it, or you can casually bring it up in conversation.  But you really can't ask everybody to tell you, even if you don't mean it to be a commitment.

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  • dpintodpinto member
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    I have been facing the exact same dilemma. After much debate, we went ahead and crafted a nicely written email to our friends. We thanked them for sharing the joy of our engagement and told them that we were happy to share that we are getting married in South America. We went on to describe our wedding spot and told them we'd love to have them there. 
    We then said, "As a close friend of ours, we are reaching out to you hoping to get an initial indication of your intent to attend our wedding..." Something along those lines. We explained that wedding plans are in full motion and that we'd really appreciate their feedback, as it'd allow us to plan accordingly. 
    The email has been extremely well received. We only sent it to our closest friends (60 people)... those that we were 100% sure we'd invite to the wedding. 
    Our problem is that we have a list of 400 and can only have 200 attend so going through this exercise has helped tremendously.
    Hope this helps!
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  • squirrlysquirrly member
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    If you would be happy to see them on your wedding day, regardless of its location, invite them to the wedding.  You can include in the invitation a notation that a second reception will be held X date and time in Y city, with a formal invitation to follow.  And then invite people to that.  But understand - they may come to both if you go that route. 

    If you want it to be a totally separate thing, and only invite people that RSVP no, just mail out a second round of invites to the later reception after you get RSVPs back.
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