Event Home Wedding beginning of the week or end?

Paigepars · April 2012

Trying to figure out best time to have a wedding at an event home especially if rental is Sat to Sat. What did you do?

talmagelisabeth · April 2012

Lol, I could tell you guys weren't going to like what I had to say.

I really want all of the people I invite to be able to attend my wedding. And making it as stress free as possible for them is at the top of my priorities list.

With so many decisions involved in wedding planning, having a list of what matters most to the couple from the get-go is super important. Let your priorities guide you in the decisions you make, that's my best piece of advice thus far.

Phillyboy06 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_north-carolina-outer-banks_event-home-wedding-beginning-of-the-week-or-end?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:598Discussion:dd634ec2-9c90-4e92-8103-16f764a8b1e1Post:0173f79b-5ad5-43d3-87b2-34bc432e86ab">Re: Event Home Wedding beginning of the week or end?</a>:
[QUOTE]This looks like it is going to be an unpopular point of view, but in my opinion, it is inconsiderate of your guests to hold your wedding during the week, especially if they are coming from out of town. Remember they have their own lives to worry about... I am using a vacation rental home as my venue and it rents Sunday - Sunday so we are having the wedding on Saturday and checking out the next day. Good luck!
Posted by talmagelisabeth[/QUOTE]

Just my opinion, but getting married on a Saturday and leaving on a Sunday is SUICIDE! Good for very few, but not for most. Our wedding is on Friday at 6:30 with reception to follow. Saturday is our TTD session.

talmagelisabeth · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_north-carolina-outer-banks_event-home-wedding-beginning-of-the-week-or-end?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:598Discussion:dd634ec2-9c90-4e92-8103-16f764a8b1e1Post:d7a8d1bf-cec6-4970-8735-ecdd268d2b69">Re: Event Home Wedding beginning of the week or end?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Event Home Wedding beginning of the week or end? : Just my opinion, but getting married on a Saturday and leaving on a Sunday is SUICIDE! Good for very few, but not for most. Our wedding is on Friday at 6:30 with reception to follow. Saturday is our TTD session.
Posted by Phillyboy06[/QUOTE]

A Friday is at least more considerate of guests than a Wednesday, but I still can't in good conscience ask my guests to take off work for my wedding. To each their own!

I didn't realize people are still doing trash the dress sessions, is that what TTD stands for?

sangriaMaria · April 2012

We did a Sat-Sat rental with a Sunday wedding. We then had the rest of the week to relax. I would not have wanted to clean up the house, kick everyone out of the house, and check out on Sunday. It was enough to pack up the tables and chairs and leave them in the driveway. Most people stayed the week and a few for a long weekend. People were traveling from all over, including international, so there would be no way that anyone would have come down for just a day or two anyways. And traffic during the summer on the weekends is horrendous.

We didn't do one, but I see LOTS of TTD sessions on all of the wedding and photographers' sites.

Phillyboy06 · April 2012

Yes, TTD stands for Trash the Dress. For us "OBXers"(yeah, since I have been going there every summer for the last 7 years I consider myself one now. :-) ) it's pretty much a welcome event and fun way to celebrate marrying the one you love the next day. We can't wait, especially since our Photog, Matt Lusk, takes AWESOME pix.

Talmage you don't need to ask your guests to take off for your wedding. You make the wedding the day you want, and let the pieces fall where they may. If you make your wedding day based off of when a group of people can come, what does that say about the people who CAN'T come?

Sorry if i'm being harsh here, not really meant to be, but just wanted to explain the the TTD and reason for a Friday wedding.

Again, getting married on a Saturday, and checking out on a Sunday? Talk to us AFTER you do it we'll see if you regret doing in that way....

talmagelisabeth · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_north-carolina-outer-banks_event-home-wedding-beginning-of-the-week-or-end?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:598Discussion:dd634ec2-9c90-4e92-8103-16f764a8b1e1Post:a7b2e81b-0cb9-4a71-8688-0ce126efe64b">Re: Event Home Wedding beginning of the week or end?</a>:
[QUOTE]Talmage you don't need to ask your guests to take off for your wedding. You make the wedding the day you want, and let the pieces fall where they may. If you make your wedding day based off of when a group of people can come, what does that say about the people who CAN'T come? Sorry if i'm being harsh here, not really meant to be, but just wanted to explain the the TTD and reason for a Friday wedding. Again, getting married on a Saturday, and checking out on a Sunday? Talk to us AFTER you do it we'll see if you regret doing in that way....
Posted by Phillyboy06[/QUOTE]

I will be sure to report back! Thank you for your concern. Since you seem so worried I will let you know: my parents own the beach house next door. I have no concerns ;)

To the other issue, I don't think my guests are stupid nor do they think I am. And unfortunately, none of them are independently wealthy. If I have my wedding during the week, it's a no brainer that they have to take off work! I prefer to be considerate of that and hope the most people possible can make it.

Cheers!

OBX2011 · April 2012

Most people understand that with a DW, they are going to be taking off work anyways, so which day during the week it's held, is really a mute point.

No one called you or your guests stupid, so I am not sure where that is coming from. I don't think that anyone was implying that your guests need to be wealthy in order to take off for a DW either. I know that a lot my guests are not wealthy, but again, when it comes to a DW, most guests know that time off work and travel expense will be involved. Hence, why they are given the option to decline. If I am paying for MY wedding, then I will be taking me and my families needs into consideration before I take anyone else's.

Please don't imply that b/c the majority of us choose to have our wedding during the week, that we are by any means being inconsiderate....it is surely coming across that way.

I have not met one bride that has chosen to get married one day and turn around and check out the next day.....there is a reason for that. So, Philly is correct in his assessment.

hibiscus118 · April 2012

My guests are also not independently wealthy, and honestly I feel like I did take them into consideration. You basically telling us over and over again that we are being inconsiderate, and not listening to what we have to say is being inconsiderate in my opinion. Like I said before, all of my guests were coming anywhere from 7-15 hours away. Not a "quick weekend trip" by any means. MY guests would have had to take days off work no matter the day of the week. So I chose to have my wedding early in the week so I could enjoy time without having to worry about the wedding anymore. You chose something different, good for you. I hope it works out for you and the realty company doesn't have to charge you extra because you didn't check out on time.

Your wedding will not be better than anyone elses. We all choose different things for different reasons, and I think everyone here has had or will have beautiful weddings because it was the wedding they envisioned and put together.

marryingafootballcoach · April 2012

Hi everyone- I completely understand a weekday wedding in the OBX... It makes perfect sense to me to have the time after the wedding to relax, enjoy the beach, enjoy each other, etc. Not to mention, if you have the wedding at a event home, it definitely gives you the time that you need to clean & pack up before you go home. I would also imagine that rental fees for many vendors are less expensive during the week. As we all know at this point, getting married in the OBX is very expensive, so anything you can do to save, helps.

Personally, I am getting married on a Saturday. We aren't getting married at an event home though, and there will be staff available to clean the venue. My dad owns a house, so that isn't an issue either. My future in-laws are renting Sun-Sun. As far as our guests are concerned (we are looking at 175 at this point)... I would say over half are actually using the week as vacation or are coming down Wed-Sun... So whether I had chose a weekday or a weekend, it would have been perfect. My reason for a choosing Saturday was because the venue offered me specific dates, and this date works the best... not to mention the venue is all mine from Friday-Sunday.

I think all situations are unique... I definitely see both sides of it. Let's be nice

marryingafootballcoach · April 2012

And if you are opposed to a weekday wedding, why ask the question anyway? You knew the answer (YOUR answer) before you asked.

cwest1011 · May 2012

We rented two homes - the event home (Sunday - Sunday) and a smaller house to give some of our wedding party and family a place to stay (Saturday - Saturday). We are getting married on Thursday evening so there will be no rush to get out of the hose the next morning. I fully understand that some of our guests may not be able to make it for the full week, but we are hoping that some people will be able to come down for a long weekend to enjoy the time with us. In the end, all that matters is that we'll be married...I just hope that those we care about will be able to join us.

ChristinaJoey2012 · May 2012

We have a sunday-sunday home and are getting married on wensday. 90% of our guest our traveling and using our wedding as a reason to take a small vacation. I know well enough not to do it on a saturday or sunday. Odds are guest will be stuck on the bridge!

Paigepars · January 2013

Thanks for all sides of this issue. We have decided on a Monday wedding. Our event home is Sun to Sun and we're also hoping to rent an overflow house with a Sat to Sat stay so some of us can come a day earlier. We know all won't be able to stay all week so we think that will work out. We too want to have the wedding early in the week and relax the rest of the week. I was really frustrated early on with not being able to find a Fri - Fri rental thinking a Sat wedding would make it easier on our guests, but I hadn't even considerd the traffic issue so now I'm really happy with our decision.

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