Is it okay to not give attendants specific titles?

msummerf · December 2010

I have my two best friends standing up with me, and I don't particularly want to distinguish between them (we've all agreed to basically "split up" the MOH duties at each other's weddings, rotating who did the registry signing. I'm the last to get married, so it has worked well so far). On the groom's side, FI and his best friend are no longer on speaking terms, meaning that he doesn't have a best man, just his two groomsmen.

I thought we might just list the WP as Bride's attendants and Groom's attendants in order to avoid awkward conversations about why there is no best man. Would I be breaking any etiquette rules by doing so?

frogurt814 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_okay-not-give-attendants-specific-titles?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:e4b2e939-56cb-42b4-9f24-68c389ac9996Post:c034f6d3-ed84-4173-a828-b4b14078375a">Is it okay to not give attendants specific titles?</a>:
[QUOTE]I have my two best friends standing up with me, and I don't particularly want to distinguish between them (we've all agreed to basically "split up" the MOH duties at each other's weddings, rotating who did the registry signing. I'm the last to get married, so it has worked well so far). On the groom's side, FI and his best friend are no longer on speaking terms, meaning that he doesn't have a best man, just his two groomsmen. I thought we might just list the WP as Bride's attendants and Groom's attendants in order to avoid awkward conversations about why there is no best man. <strong> Would I be breaking any etiquette rules by doing so?</strong>
Posted by msummerf[/QUOTE]
Nope. That is perfectly fine. You can list them as bride's attendants and groom's attendants, or just list them all under "Wedding Party."

Manwaithiel · December 2010

That's fine.

But I'm curious. What's a registry signing?

aerinpegadrak · December 2010

That's exactly what we did, it's perfectly fine.

naomikb · December 2010

Ditto PPs, perfectly fine to do bride's attendants and groom's attendants.

Manwaithiel - It must be a Canadian thing... I've had a few Americans ask. Or maybe just an Ontario thing. It's the signing of the marriage certificate form(s) that get sent into the government to register your marriage. It usually happens after the vows, near the end of the ceremony. There is generally music going on and pictures being taken. Then after that you are announced and exit the church. I've seen it done at all the weddings I've been to in Ontario.

Manwaithiel · December 2010

Ahhhh okay. Signing the marriage license. See, that's never been a part of any wedding ceremony I've ever seen. Though apparently it does happen in some.

The first thing that popped into mind was signing the gift registry and I was like, "Why the heck do you need to do that?"

frogurt814 · December 2010

Thread jack:

Manwa, you are a real person! Nice to see your siggy pic!

garcias1 · December 2010

You can list them as attendants if you want. Or you can list them as they are. I don't think it would be weird to have two GM and no best man. If someone asks, you can just say "both GMs mean a lot to FI, and he couldn't choose between them."

Manwaithiel · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_okay-not-give-attendants-specific-titles?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:e4b2e939-56cb-42b4-9f24-68c389ac9996Post:8db2f1ed-3b13-48b7-a82b-b506da5921ac">Re: Is it okay to not give attendants specific titles?</a>:
[QUOTE]Thread jack: Manwa, you are a real person! Nice to see your siggy pic!
Posted by frogurt814[/QUOTE]

Hahaha =) Yes I am indeed real. I figured it was high time I put something up.