Hi everyone,
SO my problem lies with my sister. We don't have a very great relationship to begin with and I had asked her to be a bridesmaid basically for my family and because I thought it was the right thing to do. Since the beginning of my relationship w my FI, shes been constantly negative... talking about divorce and never paying any attention to wedding talk... she'd roll her eyes, look away and change the subject if i ever brought it up so i never did. If I said absolutely anything, she'd tell me all I care about is the wedding. So anyways, she got mad at me over something very trivial and told me she no longer wanted to be in the wedding and the only reason she hadnt backed out earlier was because my mum had asked her not to. She had also already bought her dress and said I had to pay her for it... I said no. So I was extremely upset, because she had said a lot of hurtful things along with backing out. So i didn't talk to her for a few weeks... and all of a sudden she pops up and wants to be back in. I told her no because I had already made arrangements to have her out. She must not really care what I say because she told me today that she was going to pick up her dress (which had been sitting at the shop for 4 months) and was going to get her alterations in a few months. I once again told her no. She is now putting a big guilt trip on me.... told me she was going to wear the dress to the wedding anyways. But then she started telling me she wants to work on our relationship... I'm not really sure what to do. My heart is very big and forgiving as far as my family goes but this may have taken it too far. Any suggestions on how to get through this with as little damage as possible?