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Stay in Town or Go to Spain

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So...I am in a very difficult decision making spot. I have my church and venue set to go for May 29, 2011 here in town in Arizona. I thought this what I wanted. having a local wedding was my 3rd choice. First being Sedona, Arizona and 2nd my mom's home town in Mexico in a old style Catholic church. Well after many negatives to having a wedding in Sedona and Mexico. I thought I had settle with one locally. but now, I am so close to changing it all up.

Anyways, it all comes from a bunch of issues with my future sister in law, and my H2b's family getting way to involve in the wedding planning, as far as my future mother in law asking me to put her daughter as my bridesmaid. anyways, I wont do it and it cause huged issues between the H2B and I. We have talked about it and we both agree that she does not need to be included as a bridesmaid, but can have another part in the wedding.  but since this all happened, it has really taken away from my wedding here. I am not happy trying to plan it any longer. the fun is lost and I do not really want to deal with all the drama. So....we were planning on going to Spain for our honeymoon anyways (which the the H2B parents were tagging along * I know a whole another issue*) So I thought why not have my wedding in Spain and just fly out my mother, my son and hopefully my brother. I know his family will go for sure.

Here is the dilemma, I have basically by tomorrow to decide to cancel the other venue, if I cancel I lose out on 3700 dollars. down the drain! completely gone.  the total cost to my wedding here for 100 guests is about 20, 000-25, 000 plus the cost of the Spain honeymoon.
Spain would be the price of the flights, tour including hotel, the church, etc.  I would like a Catholic ceremony with just family, and a small dinner afterwards. Maybe a small reception when we return. something simple.  What do I do??? Do i go with my half elopement wedding in Spain or continue with my wedding here. FYI: The hubby says:Lets go for Spain!

Re: Stay in Town or Go to Spain

  • "if  I cancel I lose out on 3700 dollars"

    That makes me say stick with it.
  • I think the fact that you will lose $3700 is a big factor. But if you both want Spain, and you're ok losing the $$, I's say go for it. (Only if you can afford to lose the money...)
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    [QUOTE]"if  I cancel I lose out on 3700 dollars" That makes me say stick with it.
    Posted by *tinkertoy*[/QUOTE]

    ditto!  i would say stick with what youre doing because $3700 is a lot to just throw away.
    i would say, maybe renew your vows in spain in a few years.
  • That is a big factor, but I think we end up spending more money on the wedding here, then in Spain, even including the $3700 dollar loss.

  • Sounds like you have your mind made up then!
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    [QUOTE]That is a big factor, but I think we end up spending more money on the wedding here, then in Spain, even including the $3700 dollar loss.
    Posted by Gemini2826[/QUOTE]

    oh in that case, go to spain. it sounds like youre going back and forth but really want this spain wedding. GO FOR IT!! this is youre wedding and whatever you want, you get!
  • I agree with pp.  If you think you can make up the 3700 and perhaps save more money by going to Spain, DO IT!  It will be beautiful.  Just be ready for fall out from family and friends. 
  • I sort of do, but then something is holding me back. I just have not figured out what it is that is keeping me saying Yes to it and begin planning Spain.
  • Have you tried talking to the venue and seeing if it would be possible to lose less than $3700? Why do you have to decide by tomorrow? Is another payment due then?

    I'm undecided on what I'd recommend.
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    [QUOTE]I agree with pp.  If you think you can make up the 3700 and perhaps save more money by going to Spain, DO IT!  It will be beautiful.  Just be ready for fall out from family and friends. 
    Posted by aukelly[/QUOTE]

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  • I voted and wrote a post earlier....but my computer and I had a disagreement and it got lost.

    Anyway, I said GO FOR SPAIN! You will never regret it. Even counting your $3,700 loss, it will still be less money than a wedding at home. Plus you can usually get some of your deposit back. A friend of mine's wedding was called off 5 weeks before the date and he managed to get some of his deposits back.

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  • I'm all for Spain! I'm from PHX and a wedding here just wasn't in the cards for me. It doesn't have the appeal of an intimate, romantic, culturally shocking experience you get with a small weddng in Spain.

    But you HAVE to do what's right for the both of you.

    My FMIL put it this way "When you look back at your wedding day, won't you regret not having it at home with all your friends and family?" I thought about it and decide no. I was exactly the opposite. I would regret not going with my dream of a DW. Having an intimate wedding in an exotic place sounds and IS magical! Dream come true for me.
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  • I say go for Spain, because I would think in the end even with the loss of $3700, you'd still be ahead if you'd be spending $25,000 on a wedding here. 
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  • Thank you everyone for all the comments! I had no idea I would get such a response and it is really good to hear from neutral sides. :)
  • SPAIN!
    This is your wedding and it should be what you want. My fiance and I are also Catholic, and we want to half-elope. We want to run off and get married just us and our closest friends.

    Know you only wanted an opinion on whether or not to go, but I hope this lagniappe information helps, too.

    Having a Catholic ceremony and wedding in Europe requires paperwork, but it can be done. I found the best place to start was the US Embassy because it centered around the legality issues. However, Italy's (where we want) has more information than Spain's but it is a place to start. http://madrid.usembassy.gov/cons/acsnon-emergency.html 

    Your local Catholic church can assist you in the neccessary documents for a ceremony in Spain.

    Best of Luck
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    [QUOTE]My FMIL put it this way "When you look back at your wedding day, won't you regret not having it at home with all your friends and family?" I thought about it and decide no. I was exactly the opposite. I would regret not going with my dream of a DW. Having an intimate wedding in an exotic place sounds and IS magical! Dream come true for me.
    Posted by numb3rMel[/QUOTE]

    This!  Just picture both sides, does one vision make you regret not doing it the other way?  When I pretend it's the future and I'm looking back on a wedding in maryland my stomach twists a little bit... like look at what it could've been.

    My only warning is don't think that because your going off to spain that your also leaving all the wedding drama behind... it can find a way to follow  *just friendly advice*

    I know you'll choose whats best for you and FI in the end, and you'll have a beautiful wedding!!
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