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missaprilmarie1988
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wedding invites question #2( the +1's)
my next question is this....
Is it rude or inappropriate to not add "and guest" to people I want to invite that are single or have just a bf or gf?? If the budget allowed of course I'd like to have my friends with b/f or g/f's to bring them, or even for my single friends/family to bring a date however this is not the case, and my FI and I want a more intimate gathering
Is it rude or inappropriate to not add "and guest" to people I want to invite that are single or have just a bf or gf?? If the budget allowed of course I'd like to have my friends with b/f or g/f's to bring them, or even for my single friends/family to bring a date however this is not the case, and my FI and I want a more intimate gathering
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Re: wedding invites question #2( the +1's)
[QUOTE]"Just" a bf or gf? Excuse me, I love my "just" boyfriend. Our relationship is valid with or without a ring or even vows. My relationship is just as important and valid as anyone else's. Our choice not to be married doesn't make our relationship less valid than yours. Why wouldn't he be invited?
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]
Yess!!
Unless you and your FI were bethrothed at birth, you were "just" his gf at a certain point, as well. How would you have felt it he received an invitation to a wedding, a month before you got engaged, and you were not invited because you were "just" his gf?
Don't split up couples because you don't deem their relationship to be serious enough to warrant an invitation to your wedding. Social units must be invited together.
It's their day, not mine, and if their not comfortable/unable to invite my SO, then that's fine. It probably means I'd be the only one he knows anyway and that wouldn't be fun for him.
[QUOTE]I<strong> have a different take on this. Just because someone has a boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't mean they HAVE to be invited</strong>. My boyfriend has a cousin who always has a different girlfriend and it makes the family uncomfortable to have a different girl at every event, so they don't like inviting SOs unless they know it's very serious (there was a lot of arm pulling to get me down to just meet his grandma). And if it's a numbers issue, I see no reason to not invite someone you've never met. When my boyfriend's cousin (a different one) got married, his sister's boyfriend of 5 years got invited, but despite being together for 2 1/2 years, I didn't get invited. They had never met me and when his mom inquired, they just weren't comfortable with it. However, I've spent a lot of time with them since then and they will invite me to the next wedding. And if my cousin getting married this summer doesn't invite my boyfriend, I would understand. They don't know him very well and they have a very limited budget. I'm sure there are many people they would prefer to invite than some guy the groom has only met in passing and the bride has never met. It's their day, not mine, and if their not comfortable/unable to invite my SO, then that's fine. It probably means I'd be the only one he knows anyway and that wouldn't be fun for him.
Posted by Chloeagh[/QUOTE]
I completely agree with this. If the OP personally knows the BF or GF, then yes, they should be invited. Otherwise, you do NOT have to invite a BF or GF just because your friend is currently dating someone. If they are engaged, then they should be invited because THAT is a unit. Not because they put a label of "boyfriend/girlfriend" on their relationship.