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Who is wrong?

Night_SpriteNight_Sprite
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I have on two occasions met my sister's friends when apparently they said I was unfriendly or something to her.  She then chastised me.  I told her it is not appropriate to chastise me when I did not know these people at all.

Occasion one: Sister forgot her keys and drove an hour away with her boyfriend.  I went home in the middle of errands pre-wedding to be there to give keys to friend and do sister a favor.  Friend comes to door with a phone to her head, half smiles, but not really at which point I hand her the keys.  She promptly leaves.  Weird, but unremarkable.

Occasion two: I'm with sister at Walmart.  She sees her friend who I have never met before.  She does not introduce us.  I do not say anything but hi when she is nearly done speaking with him and tells me his name.

Side note: Sister is a former cheerleader, super bubbly, bouncy, etc.  I am not.

Who is wrong?  Should I have been super duper friendly in awkward situations or is she overreacting because her friends expect me to be more like her?
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  • Koopa17Koopa17 member
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    Honestly, I'd be surprised if her friends even did say anything about it in the first place.  Not that I know your sister, but she could be saying they said that in order to get you to be more bubbly like her.  I don't know.  But you don't sound like you were rude in those situations, what else were you supposed to do?
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  • AlexiaANDRobertAlexiaANDRobert
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    They all sound a little ridiculous.
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  • pandasquishypandasquishy member
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    Occasion one:  I hate when people can't say, "Hold on a sec," and give you their attention.  That person was in the wrong.  Did you say anything at all?  If you didn't say anything I could see why the friend said you were unfriendly, but they were the one being rude.  I would have just talked really loudly but politely in that situation.

    Occasion two:  Tell your sister WTF.  If she doesn't introduce you, which was rude on her part, what are you supposed to do?  You were right there.

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  • EmmaBride2BEmmaBride2B member
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    It sounds like in both situations you would have had to interrupt conversations in order to be bubbly off the bat. I don't think you did anything wrong.
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  • brimcleodbrimcleod
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    I would say she's wrong. I don't understand where you had done anything wrong. In the first situation, I think you were being insanely friendly. You went way out of your way to do something sweet for your sister. Why is that a problem? I think you did the right thing by not saying anything to her, if she was on the phone. I mean, you didn't want to interrupt, right?

    In situtation 2, I don't think you did anything wrong, but I guess I could see where the friend would think you're unfriendly. Maybe her friend expected you to be like her, and when you weren't he thought you were just being rude.

    I'm pretty bubbly too, and a former cheerleader myself. But I would have done the same thing you did in those situations.

    Basically Situation 1: You did only nice & insanely considerate things.
    Situation 2: You didn't do anything wrong, but the friend had higher expectations.


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  • katiewhompuskatiewhompus member
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    Sounds like unnecessary drama. That's how I would act around my friends siblings and how they would act with me. An occasional hi, hand over homework if they forgot, maybe a nod if we saw each other in public but that's it.
    Just because they are her friends doesn't mean you have to be all "Omg like how are you doing I haven't seen you in a while

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  • Night_SpriteNight_Sprite
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    THANK YOU.  I have just been beating my head against a metaphorical wall because I don't get why she decided to get all up in my behavioral business.  Thank you sane people.  Thank you.
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  • scoettoscoetto member
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    Your sister's friends sound like they have sticks up their asses and a need an attitude adjustment.

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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    It sounds like either her friends are trying to start drama or your sister is.
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    Simply- on the front page your name shows up as "simply fat" I was giggling like a child over here. Who would have simply fat as their name. Fated is much better.

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  • quotequeenquotequeen member
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    Extroverts who criticize introverts for not being like them deserve to be taken out and shot.
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