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Honoring a grandparent that passed unexpectedly 7 months before wedding

My FH's Grandpa passed away a couple months ago (very unexpectedly) so we are doing something special for him at the Ceremony. It was his Mom's dad and this was also kind of her idea. My FH wants to walk down the aisle with a white rose (or lily) and place it on the chair where he would have sat. I know, this is going to be sad. But, should he escort his mother down the aisle when he does this? His parents are divorced and if he doesn't escort her then I guess one of the groomsmen would ? Neither of us have any living grandparents. I'm not sure how this would all work out. I really don't want her to carry the rose down the aisle because I think that would put too much focus on her and make it even more sad. Then for my Grandma that passed away 2 years ago we will have photos somewhere at the ceremony of her along with one of his Grandpa. Should we then bring these photos into the reception area or would that be too much? I'm a little confused on the whole thing.

Re: Honoring a grandparent that passed unexpectedly 7 months before wedding

  • It is actually his only daughters idea (my FH's mom). He was married twice and neither are living. She already told his living sisters and brothers and they really like the idea so I'm not worried about that. I'm just confused about the logistics of the whole thing.

  • I would go subtle.  Your FI can wear a white boutonniere and you could put a little statement about loved ones who can't be here in your program if you're having programs. 

    Is your FI totally on board with this or is he going along with it because it was his mom's idea? 
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  • My grandmother passed away last summer and while it was not expected, she was super important to me and my FI and we wanted to include her in a way that would be happy and not super sad. She died of cancer and therefore, we are making a donation to the American Cancer Society in lieu of favors. Instead of printing up individual cards to place at each table setting, we will have a framed picture of her (on her wedding day) at the escort card table with a smaller frame containing a note about the favors. Then we will also be playing some of her favorite songs throughout the reception... songs like Dancing Queen and Benny and the Jets... songs that only those who really knew her would know about. That way she's there with us but not in a "Debby Downer" sort of way... although I do like the flower on the chair idea! Like PP's have said, if there is something that you are thinking, make sure to run it by other family members. I'm sure it'll be very nice and everyone will love that you thought of him.
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