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FMIL nuff said...

URIsweetheartsURIsweethearts
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anyone else's FMIL driving them up a WALL these days?!?! i have just about had it with mine. FI's parents offered to pay for transportation - which is generous - however...first she wants it for the whole day - to church and back to reception and back to hotels at the end of the night. then we get the pricing back and it's high - i will admit - so now she wants to cut out the transportation at the end of the night (after a 5 hour open bar!) and have the transportation stop when the cocktail hour starts because all of her family is at hotels across the street and won't need it - and my family is supposed to walk the 3 miles back to the hotel in the dark and drunk?! AHHHHH sorry needed to VENT!!!! TGIF
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  • Sarah&Eric2012Sarah&Eric2012 member
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    My FMIL is trying to shanghai my Bridal Shower at the moment, so I feel your pain. 

    Does your hotel offer shuttle service?  The hotel that I booked our local block at offers a complementary shuttle (it's a mini-van but what drunk person is going to care?) and the other hotels are for people from OOT who don't drink anyway.
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  • URIsweetheartsURIsweethearts
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    shanghai - i love it. haha :) the hotels don't have shuttles - hence why we are looking into other transportation - believe me i wish they did - thanks for the thought tho! luckily - i have had no problems with the bridal shower so far - KNOCK ON WOOD :) but my mom and MOH are mostly handling that anyway - because FMIL lives in NJ
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  • smartlyprettysmartlypretty member
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    You should look into school buses if your hotel doens't offer shuttles. I know it's a little weird but they are REALLY cheap in my area. 
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  • CowgirlK39CowgirlK39 member
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    Mine drives me nuts on a daily basis. She thinks the wedding shower she is throwing me is a party for her, so she is inviting the world, with no regard for the wedding guest list. Then she asked me if I wanted to go with her to a baby shower next weekend, for some girl I have never met, and I can almost guaruntee that she is NOT asked to bring a guest. Once again, she uses her usual line, "Oh they won't mind!" Uh yeah, they will.
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  • Sarah&Eric2012Sarah&Eric2012 member
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    Oh man, I'm pretty sure people mind when they're invited to a shower and not the actual wedding lol.

    My MOH, FMIL and mother are all meeting on Sunday afternoon to discuss the shower.  If only I could be a fly on the wall at that meeting.  My mother knows what I want, as does my MOH so it would be interesting to see FMIL hit the brick wall that my mother will show up with.  FI has already tried to tell FMIL what I want and she keeps arguing that we won't get good gifts that way.  She's so worried about the gifts, it drives me crazy!
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  • URIsweetheartsURIsweethearts
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    FMIL is worried about the gifts too!!! she is obsessed about it! she saw our registry and was like -this is it? no towels, no bedding, no nothing?! she freaked. she was like - what are people going to get you - you need to make sure there is enough. i *politely* told her that i dont want to get a bunch of things  i dont want or need just to have them. im not a hoarder of crap like you is what i really wanted to say. when that didnt do it for her - i said, if ppl dont know what to get they can either not come - or just give me $$. i guess i take back my no drama about the shower...

    smartly - i brought up the idea of buses to FI - he hit the roof- so that is OUT. unfortunately - because ive seen it done in a cute way...

    cowgirl - my fave line "uh yeah. they will"

    thank god my FMIL lives in NJ and i dont see her as much -
    after her millioneth email about the trolleys - i told FI to deal with her - he was pretty upset she was making such a big deal about it. its like you want to help out and fight to be involved - then dont challenge everything we say.
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    thanks i feel better haha :)
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  • Sarah&Eric2012Sarah&Eric2012 member
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    At least she hasn't told you that she needs to be present when you open the envelopes from the wedding so that she can keep track of what everyone gave you.

    I'm glad that FI is on your side at least :-)
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  • adktd2bootsadktd2boots member
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     My FMIL wears the pants in the family.  I sometimes have a hard time with this, because I don't always agree with what she says.  But FI is so used to it, it's not a big deal to him.  FIs older brother has a horridbitch for a wife.  FMIL always says "I just feel so bad for him, but he's too kindhearted"  Well, he's kindhearted, but he also has no balls to speak up because you've spoken for him for 35 years.  He doesn't know how to speak up.  FI and younger brother are a year and a half apart.  They were in the same class in school.  They are really close and don't put up with anything. At all.  Their younger sister is pretty much the same as older brother. 

    We've butted heads on a couple of wedding things, but I'm keeping things so simple, so she's staying out of most of it.  (especially since it's a DW to my hometown) I'm pretty opinionated, so when something she says really bothers me, I'll speak up. But otherwise I just sit back and let her wear the pants and keep my status as the "most liked IL".  

    And to think, when we build our house- I'll be able to see hers from ours.
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  • URIsweetheartsURIsweethearts
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    sarah - OMG the envelopes - that would put me over the edge. i mean its one thing for her to think ppl give us $$ (god forbid) but i cant imagine that kind of request.

    adk - my FMIL wears the pants in her fam as well - if you havent guessed already. lol. FI was TOTAL mamas boy when i met him but he has come leaps and bounds! FI has a younger brother too - maybe its the moms with 2 boys, i dunno. i have gotten more opinionated as well - but you need to pick and choose the battles i guess - which is hard to remember at times.
    i would die if FMIL lived that close to me. best of luck to you. ouch!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_fmil-nuff-said?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:dab9d58c-d445-4813-99ae-98de36ab1089Post:0e7f1195-fe17-4b68-9d0c-0df597afd5dd">Re: FMIL nuff said...</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>At least she hasn't told you that she needs to be present when you open the envelopes from the wedding so that she can keep track of what everyone gave you</strong>. I'm glad that FI is on your side at least :-)
    Posted by Sarah&Eric2012[/QUOTE]

    OMG My FMIL just threw my baby shower and at the end of it after everyone left, she had the thank you cards and envelopes set out for us and wanted us to fill them out right then and there so she could make sure we got them done and did them right. I almost shanked her. I can see her doing the exact same thing for my bridal shower. Not looking forward to it.

    Btw, I politely thanked her for being so organized and told her I'd get them done on my own time. You should have seen her face!
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    Long story, but mine is either not going to attend our wedding, or might just be walking out as soon as the  ceremony starts....
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  • npott044npott044
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    My FIL's are wonderful people and so supportive. It's my mom that drives me up the wall!
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  • jessa1228jessa1228 member
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    Aaaaand it's stories like these that make me so glad I don't have to deal with a FMIL. Good luck to you girls :-/
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  • URIsweetheartsURIsweethearts
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    Yea you're lucky....how come you don't have to deal with one?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_fmil-nuff-said?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:dab9d58c-d445-4813-99ae-98de36ab1089Post:da514ad9-acf1-4f38-8c7b-aecf982450b5">Re: FMIL nuff said...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yea you're lucky....how come you don't have to deal with one?
    Posted by URIsweethearts[/QUOTE]

    <div>She is a very toxic woman, so FI made the decision a few years ago, when his parents divorced, to cut her out of his life. Hands down one of the best decisions he's ever made.</div>
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  • URIsweetheartsURIsweethearts
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    Oh I see ya sounds like a better situation for all of you....
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_fmil-nuff-said?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:dab9d58c-d445-4813-99ae-98de36ab1089Post:0e7f1195-fe17-4b68-9d0c-0df597afd5dd">Re: FMIL nuff said...</a>:
    [QUOTE]At least she hasn't told you that she needs to be present when you open the envelopes from the wedding so that she can keep track of what everyone gave you. I'm glad that FI is on your side at least :-)
    Posted by Sarah&Eric2012[/QUOTE]

    <div>whaaaaT???? OMG.  I feel for you girls, I really do. :(  I"m in my late 40's and so is FH.  We're paying for our own wedding (duh) and his mom isn't even invited. LOL  They don't get along.  We've been together 3 years and I haven't met her yet, and she lives 45 minutes away.  LOL  </div>
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