Introduction and need help!!!!

Soon to Be Mrs Jay · January 2013

Hi Ladies!!! My name is Vicki and I just got engaged on Xmas. My fiance and I have a long history together but have been a couple for 2 1/2 years. We both have kids from previous marriages. I live in Owings Mills, MD and am a Psych nurse in Baltimore. We are planning a small wedding for May 17 2014 which will also be our 4th year as a couple.

Okay now that I have introductions out the way I need some help. So I am not a good phone conversation person. In saying that I get heart palpations whenever I have to call somewhere to get info about something. So I think I never get the full details I need cause I am too nervous making the call to ask the right questions to get a good deal. I contacted some wedding planners but all the ones I have spoken to have been helpful in wanting to make the calls for me but it will also mean I would have to hand over the reigns to my entire wedding to them. I want to do alot of the DIY projects but if I employ the wedding planners to get me the vendors I want I can not do the projects.

My question is, Do you feel it would be okay to send a email to potential vendors to get information or is that too impersonal? I can write a great email. It's just the actual talking on phone that gets me in trouble.

Thanks for the help in advance and I apologize also for my long vent/question.

Vicki

rowenac82 · January 2013

Welcome and congrats! I am officially an "old head" but wanted to chime in since I am around today:-)

I actually planned my wedding living in St. Louis and the wedding being in Arizona. Since I was doing lots of wedding planning at work (shh....don't tell anybody:-)) I mostly emailed everyone. It is a great way to weed out people you don't want instantly just based on them being out of your budget. Some might want to speak to you first on the phone before giving you pricing but most will send you a quote very email. Getting basic questions answered by email is a great way to go in my opinion. That way, you also have a paper trail of all the responses and it makes it easier for you to ask follow up questions. So go for! Start emailing! :-) Then follow up in person with your short list :-)

Happy planning!

MissusD1116 · January 2013

Hey girl! There are a couple of us nurses around here! Welcome! First, I completely agree with Ro. Email! That's my preferred method. Chile, I would have to take a day off work in order to make all these wedding calls LOL! I sent practically the same email to my vendors, of course changing the words a bit depending on they vendor type. Also, just because you have a planner doesn't mean they take TOTAL control. You have the final say, they are there to give you ideas and point you in the right direction...maybe look into a day of or month of coordinator if you will pretty much do the planning yourself but may need help coordinating last details or with vendors. Lastly, BREEVE girl, bask in the moment of being engaged! Planning is stressful and can get old quick! You got some time Suga!!! And again, welcome to THEE best board!

Soon to Be Mrs Jay · January 2013

Thanks for the advice so far ladies... We are starting the planning early because these next months are the relaxation months in my fiance field of work. He is the safety officer for Nestle and from April to October they have non stop audits. He will have to do alot of traveling and working almost every weekend. If we atleast get vendors, I can handle the rest of the planning. He wants to be hands on with this wedding so his opinion really does matter. I think I will follow the advice on getting a planner the month before and day of. I know I am going to need it.

I am working on a block email that I can send and will change the wording for the different vendors. My fiance jokes and says all the talking I do with my patients I should not be such a punk talking to ppl on the phone. LOL

Thanks again.

Vicki

[Deleted User] · January 2013

V!! {waves} welcome to the boards luvie! and congratulations!

i'd agree with the ladies. write to your heart's content. if you must get on the phone try
making a list first with everything you want to know and then consult your sticky note as you go. girl if this group of hershey's kisses are any indication, by the time you finish wedding planning we'll have you leaving voicemails tambout: I called you at 1:34 on January 14th and have yet to receive the information I am seeking. gooddaysir! lol.

either wh'ay I hope you take miyah's advice and enjoy enjoy enjoy, it goes by in a blur.

p.s. we're gonna need to get you a pink hardhat for rsvp time.

MissusD1116 · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_introduction-and-need-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:ad673994-a087-4863-9db5-63ba7cbafe63Post:416a7571-3874-4762-88ac-b2fc90404c59">Re: Introduction and need help!!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]V!! {waves} welcome to the boards luvie! and congratulations! i'd agree with the ladies. write to your heart's content. if you must get on the phone try making a list first with everything you want to know and then consult your sticky note as you go. girl if this group of hershey's kisses are any indication, by the time you finish wedding planning we'll have you leaving voicemails tambout: I called you at 1:34 on January 14th and have yet to receive the information I am seeking. gooddaysir! lol. either wh'ay I hope you take miyah's advice and enjoy enjoy enjoy, it goes by in a blur. p.s. we're gonna need to get you a pink hardhat for rsvp time.
Posted by sultryzulu[/QUOTE]

........flatlined.......LMAO!

fancywright2 · January 2013

LOL @ Sultry! Welcome to the board Vicki!

Soon to Be Mrs Jay · January 2013

Thanks again ladies

nursing2u · January 2013

HEY VICKI!!!!!

As Miyah said..... another nurse!!! yayyy....

CONGRATS.. on the engagement... I definitely agree.. take a few days or weeks to just get your head together and since you love to write.. you can write out what you two want and how YOU TWO WANT IT...

Emails are the best when it comes to 12hour shifts and you have family to care for the rest of the time... I know I can pop out an email in no time... I am having a destination wedding, but I emailed everybody.. I just felt better having a record of what I wrote, when I did it and MOST IMPORTANTLY... when they replied..

It will be good to hear about all of your plans and all the fun you are going to have... Wedding Planner... as others have said... THEY WORK FOR YOU.. not the other way around...(that's where the taking a few days to write down what you want comes in handy)..

Enjoy this group of lovely ladies... (sorry hershey kisses).... we are here for laughs, cries , vents and happiness!!!!

tirathemrs · January 2013

Congrats Vicki and as stated before WELCOME TO THEE BEST BOARD ON TK... The women here are awesome and soo filled with knowledge and helpful tips for the big day..and I agree with PP email email email that's how you weed out the ppl you don't want or need and that way you definitely won't have a bunch of aggravating ppl calling you all day tambout (SULTRY ZULU VOICE) Hiiiii are you still interested in coming by is there anything I can do smh.... Again WELCOME...

deucedst96 · January 2013

...another Baltimore Bride! Yay!!! Congrats!

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