Date Drama

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Blonde407 · February 2010

She isn't even engaged yet... keep your date !

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AlexiaANDRobert · February 2010

Fi and I got engaged on Jan 20th. We're not going to do a formal wedding, but we are going to have a reception with everyone. We orginally said 5/7/11. Now the word is coming out that his younger sister is planning either March or April 2011. She's not even engaged yet! If she isn't even engaged, just keep planning as you were originally. She can't plan a wedding without being engaged. Who knows when her engagement will come? Also, if you're not planning a formal wedding, but just a reception, please realize that it's a party, and not a wedding.

It's really ticking me off... it's not that I feel I have to be first, it's that I feel you shouldn't have a wedding within 1 or 2 months of your sibling! He has some family all around that is going to have to travel, but him and his father don't think it's a big deal. Yet, my parents both understood and they said we should move it up. I want to move the wedding up to Nov or Dec 2010 now, but he doesn't think we should move it at all. In reality, you might not WANT to have a wedding within a month or two, but it can and does happen. The relatives will make whatever decision they want when the time comes.

My question is am I wrong for being upset and wanting to change the date now?? If so, what else should I tell FI so that he will agree to change the date? You're not right or wrong in being upset, I'd be annoyed too. I wouldn't change the date though.

Blonde407 · February 2010

She isn't engaged nor should she start setting a date till she has the ring on her finger. I had date drama... keep your date !

Megs30 · February 2010

You shouldn't move your date especially if they aren't even engaged yet.

andee1353 · February 2010

But, if you will continue to be upset the entire time you are planning and wondering what is going to happen with her I'd move it. Having said that, before you do--or even say you are going to think about it--check out the place you are planning to have your reception to see what fall dates they have. At this point they may not have any open. In that case, issue solved! I wouldn't scramble to find a different place.

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mlharbis · February 2010

I say, if you are upset by it (I would be too) and it is feasible to move your date up and you want to then I would do it. You could tell your FI that having the dates spread out will make more people able to attend both weddings. That's really the only reason I can come up with that boys will understand. Boys just don't realize some of the little things that bother us!

Pretty Parula · February 2010

This chick probably doesn't even realise how much money they'll have to save up each month, nevermind the amount of time that will go into planning a wedding. In all likelihood, they'll end up moving their date back once they get the sticker shock. Moving your date up will just make you look catty, like you're trying to beat her, and you definitely want to come off like you're taking the high road.

Theresa626 · February 2010

I'd be annoyed too.

Dragonfly6191 · February 2010

Something similar happened to me. My MOM was convinced she was getting engaged, and decided she wanted to have her wedding the week before or after mine so the family could just come all at once. I understand the practicality of it...but it still isn't something you really want as a bride!

I say keep your date...if she really DOES get engaged, hopefully you can convince her how special of a time it is for both of you, and you would both benefit from a bigger gap of time!

SarahSmile23 · February 2010

i'd keep the date and get my save the dates out immediately so people can start planning for my wedding. i'd also go ahead and call as many relatives i can and chit chat with them about my wedding and how excited i'll be for them to be there.

then when she finally gets engaged/sets a date/sends save the dates, they will feel like they have already committed to yours.

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