Toms Shoes-Bride

Trucker2007 · December 2012

Any brides get a pair of Toms shoes for their big day? I was thinking of getting either a glitter pair or the red vegan ones that say "Do Small things with Great Love."

What Toms did you wear for your wedding?

EmiliaC01 · December 2012

I think Toms are a cute alternative. I went to a wedding where the bride wore Toms.

FaithCaitlin · December 2012

I was going to wear Toms but decided to wear sparkly ballet flats instead. I love the idea of wearing Toms!

cwaggoner07 · December 2012

I'm in the minority, but I really hate casual wedding shoes. That doesn't even mean they have to be heels, I've seen some very elegant flats or strappy sandals.
But that's just my opinion, if you love them, go for it.

gabriel0915 · December 2012

My H hates TOMs and I love them. I wanted to wear the pink sparkly ones but he was so against it that I ended up getting Vera Wang flats that I'm just as in love with. If you love them then go with it!

HobokensFury · December 2012

I think TOMS fall into the category of not formal enough for weddings. Sorry

DaveandRoxy · December 2012

They're not TOMs. But I'm wearing all white Chucks for my wedding. Maybe they make all white TOMs? I think that would be cute!

cwaggoner07 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]The wrong shoes completely ruin an outfit. I don't understand why some brides pair what is likely the most formal and expensive gown they'll ever wear with cheap shoes. It doesn't look cute, quirky or unique; the bride comes off looking like a hick who doesn't know how to dress appropriately for an occasion.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

I completely agree.
I'm not even a fan of the colored shoes, but I've never seen it look tacky or inappropriate, it's just NMS.
But I would go so far as to say casual shoes with a formal dress are tacky and inappropriate.

And I can't see anyone wearing chucks with a dress without thinking of Kristen Stewart. And you don't want to draw that comparison.

DaveandRoxy · December 2012

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[QUOTE]The wrong shoes completely ruin an outfit. I don't understand why some brides pair what is likely the most formal and expensive gown they'll ever wear with cheap shoes. It doesn't look cute, quirky or unique; the bride comes off looking like a hick who doesn't know how to dress appropriately for an occasion.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

<div>You got married in a backyard and you think shoes no one will see makes a bride "look like a hick"? That's rich.</div>

HobokensFury · December 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_toms-shoes-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:93d19046-def0-45d4-993b-e90945cea150Post:b8fde46d-45a6-4556-962b-3abc306a54b4">Re: Toms Shoes-Bride</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Toms Shoes-Bride : You got married in a backyard and you think shoes no one will see makes a bride "look like a hick"? That's rich.
Posted by DaveandRoxy[/QUOTE]
That's low...

QueerFemme · December 2012

I am in the "chucks look ridiculous with a wedding dress" camp. I don't think it looks necessarily like the bride is a hick, but I think the bride looks like they are trying way to hard to be cute, unique and quirky and it also makes me think the bride isn't grown up enough to be getting married, since chucks remind me of a prom. There are thousands of dress shoes that are comfortable and casual. Sneakers are never appropriate dress attire.

On that note, I don't think TOMS are either, even when they are covered in glitter. Buy some glitter flats.

pumpkin42 · December 2012

One, it's your wedding: do what you want. Don't let people tell you it's "trying to hard to be cute or quirky" or too informal. Or that you're a hick. If it's your style, your ethos, do it! It's tiresome to hear everyone's rigid idea of what's the right thing to do. It's up to you. I had a guest say that she found the fact that my bridesmaids wore different dresses "distracting." If she's distracted by different dresses of the same color during a wedding that's her problem. The same idea goes here. Hopefully, you don't have mean judgemental people who'd call you a hick though.

Two, they don't have to be seen unless you want them to be.

I wore TOMS to my wedding. You couldn't see them unless I wanted you to and I loved them. This is me having to lift up my dress to show the photographer my shoes.

I didn't want to buy the specific wedding TOMS because they look like bandages to me. I chose a Moroccan pattern.

P.S. I LOVE the message on yours!

B2Z728 · December 2012

Depending on your dress, there's a good chance that nobody will see you shoes unless you want them too. I'm positive that nobody saw mine until the garter toss. I wore nice low heels for the beginning of the day and then switched to Swarovski studded flip flops for the reception. Those flip flops cost more than my "formal" shoes. But, if I knew they were going to show, I would have worn different shoes.

TOMS are not my personal style. But if you really want to wear glittered TOMS, and they will not show when wearing your wedding dress, then wear what you want. If they do show, I'd consider a more formal but comfortable shoe.

pumpkin42 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]I dislike casual shoes with a formal wedding dress. If you think you are being "different" or unique", I'm sorry to disappoint you. There have ben many posts about both toms and Chuck Taylor's. I have advise all those brides not to do it. It is not appropriate worn with a formal wedding dress.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

<div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;color:#1f1f1f;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;text-align:left;line-height:normal;">OP didn't ask if you thought wearing TOMS was a good or bad idea. She asked what TOMS other brides have worn. </div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;color:#1f1f1f;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;text-align:left;line-height:normal;">
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ksblumb · December 2012

I'm wearing heels for the ceremony, but I am wearing these beauties while getting ready. I'll also keep them handy for the reception if I need them (although it's just a short dinner reception, so I doubt I will...)

http://www.toms.com/silver-snow-leopard-women-s-vegan-classics?utm_medium=shoppingengine&utm_source=google&gclid=CMf86u-ckbQCFUjZQgodGxcA3A

The also make this snow lepeord print in the baby toms, so I'm getting a matching pair for my flower girl, and the bridemaids are getting plain gray ones. Both of my BMs wear toms regularly, so I know they will love them!

HobokensFury · December 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Toms Shoes-Bride :<strong> OP didn't ask if you thought wearing TOMS was a good or bad idea. She asked what TOMS other brides have worn. </strong> I, for one, didn't think I was being "different" or "unique." I was being me.
Posted by pumpkin42[/QUOTE]

These are public boards and people can respond however they want to.

pumpkin42 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Toms Shoes-Bride : These are public boards and people can respond however they want to.
Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]

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<div>Yeah, I'm noticing a lot of strong egos around here. It's perturbing.</div><div>
</div><div> For a forum that's so fiercely about discussing etiquette and perceived rudeness, ignoring what someone wants to talk about in their thread and hijacking it to disapprove of their choice seems counterintuitive. </div></div><div>
</div><div>If you expect respect and people to help you out, you should do the same. As a rule. If not, you're just a...you know <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></div>

pumpkin42 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Toms Shoes-Bride : These are public boards and people can respond however they want to.
Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]

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<div>Yeah, I'm noticing a lot of strong egos around here. It's perturbing.</div><div>
</div><div> For a forum that's so fiercely about discussing etiquette and perceived rudeness, ignoring what someone wants to talk about in their thread and hijacking it to disapprove of their choice seems counterintuitive. </div></div><div>
</div><div>If you expect respect and people to help you out, you should do the same. As a rule. If not, you're just a...you know <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></div>

Trucker2007 · December 2012

It's unfortunate people can't be more positive. I wasn't asking to be completely dissed I was asking if anyone else is wearing them and if so what color. I am getting a pair for the reception and wearing totally beautiful sparkly heels for the ceremony and pictures.

Trucker2007 · December 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_toms-shoes-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:93d19046-def0-45d4-993b-e90945cea150Post:86c74c90-8f7b-485c-a4af-fbf91b4c4cfd">Re: Toms Shoes-Bride</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Toms Shoes-Bride : OP didn't ask if you thought wearing TOMS was a good or bad idea. She asked what TOMS other brides have worn. I, for one, didn't think I was being "different" or "unique." I was being me.
Posted by pumpkin42[/QUOTE]
Thank you

QueerFemme · December 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_toms-shoes-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:15Discussion:93d19046-def0-45d4-993b-e90945cea150Post:30fa497f-acf0-49cc-8c03-9679ae428d48">Re:Toms ShoesBride</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Toms ShoesBride: I'd point out how very junior high that semantics game is, but I'd just be accused of being clueless again, I'm sure. Honestly, I get not liking the look or whatever, but this is one of the few topics that I will never understand certain posters' vehemence and freewheeling insults. I mean, honestly, when one posts "I<strong> think the bride isn't mature enough to get married" is that actually a legitimate statement?</strong> So, your friend, who you know and love dearly is getting married. At one point halfway through the night, you spy a 2 second glimpse of what looks like toms or chucks or whatever under her wedding dress.<strong> Do you HONESTLY start reassessing your entire opinion of her, think she's way less mature than you ever thought, and begin questioning if she's ready for marriage? Really?
</strong>Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

I am one of the people who said this (and have said it in the past), so I'll respond.

When I see this, I EITHER think the bride is trying to hard to be cute, quirky or unique OR she appears to young to be getting married. Since chucks or toms remind me of a prom picture with a bunch of teenagers.

If I knew one of my close close friends was planning to wear a wedding gown and chucks, I would try to talk her out of it and encourage her to get a nice pair of flats. I would tell her what my opinion is (assuming she is close enough for me to be with her through the planning stages and that opinion would be welcome). If I went to a wedding of an acquaintance and she was wearing chucks, I would shake my head and think she was trying to hard to be cute and quirky and silently wish that she would have googled "converse with wedding dress" and saw how overdone this is and how ridiculous it looks.

Honestly, I'm more likely to accept flip flops with a wedding dress than I am sneakers. I still think that a decent pair of Payless shoe source glitter or silver flats for $20.00 are by far more appropriate than a pair of sneakers and a pair of flats can be equally or more comfortable than converse.

QueerFemme · December 2012

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[QUOTE]Thank you, Cmgilpin. That's what I love about you and GLB, when we DO disagree, which is rare, you take the time to respond and explain without the need to tell me to get a clue or grow up. I think what you're saying makes sense. I am just a. not someone who notices what people wear on their feet, especially under wedding gowns and b. someone who sees this as a "victimless crime". I also think trying to get brides to reconsider is totally different from flat out insulting them over it, which you didn't do. I see the distinction in your post of "looks too young" vs "isn't mature enough" which is a fan favorite around here and quickly becoming the new "tacky" and "bridezilla" as a phrase so widely applied and overused that it is in danger of losing its validity when it IS called for. I still disagree that's its anyone else's concern or worth worrying about what others think in the case of bridal shoes, but I do see what you're saying.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

:) I love shoes. I mean, LOVE shoes. I searched high & low for the "perfect" shoes for my wedding. So, I can't imagine wanting to wear a pair of sneakers with a wedding gown.

It IS a victimless crime and I wouldn't tackle the bride or anything, and tell her she was tacky, but I would still wonder why she didn't bother to find a pair of fabulous shoes to go with her gown. So, when people post here about their plans to wear sneakers, I consider it a chance
to give them a head's up that people likely WILL look at their whole outfit, and the "what the hell are you wearing" is not an uncommon opinion.

If they still want to wear it, well, I think it's an immature wardrobe choice, and I did the best I could to deter it, but it's their feet.
I

pumpkin42 · December 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Toms ShoesBride : :) I love shoes. I mean, LOVE shoes. I searched high & low for the "perfect" shoes for my wedding. So, I can't imagine wanting to wear a pair of sneakers with a wedding gown. It IS a victimless crime and I wouldn't tackle the bride or anything, and tell her she was tacky, but I would still wonder why she didn't bother to find a pair of fabulous shoes to go with her gown. So, when people post here about their plans to wear sneakers, I consider it a chance to give them a head's up that people likely WILL look at their whole outfit, and the "what the hell are you wearing" is not an uncommon opinion. If they still want to wear it, well, I think it's an immature wardrobe choice, and I did the best I could to deter it, but it's their feet. I
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>TOMS are not sneakers. </div><div>
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QueerFemme · December 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Toms ShoesBride : TOMS are not sneakers.
Posted by pumpkin42[/QUOTE]

Yes. I realize that. Another poster in this thread was speaking about wearing chucks, which, in fact, are sneakers.

With that said though, TOMS certainly are not dress shoes. TOMS should be paired with a pair of capri pants or jeans. Not a formal wedding gown.

pumpkin42 · December 2012

Well, I paired mine with a formal wedding gown. What of it?

laurakpeters · July 2014

I'm disappointed with the trolling/rudeness that occurred on this thread. I'm not usually a commenter but was looking for inspiration, knowing I plan to wear TOMs or other non-designer, more ethical footwear for my wedding. I think the people who commented about this looking "hick" or that brides were trying too hard missed that there could be other reasons besides aesthetic that a bride might wear TOMs or chucks. Comfort, for instance! And in the case of TOMs, a more humanitarian approach to purchasing shoes than those made in sweatshops in China (the person who mentioned Payless shoes) or extremely expensive designer shoes which may never be worn again.

My fiancée and I are both planning to wear TOMs. She is wearing the crocheted ivory ones and I am planning to wear the grosgrain ballet flats. Our flower girl is wearing purple crocheted Tiny TOMs. I don't think anyone will think we have poor taste. And three children in developing countries will have also received a pair of shoes. Seems like a win-win to me.

JoanE2012 · July 2014

laurakpeters said:

I'm disappointed with the trolling/rudeness that occurred on this thread. I'm not usually a commenter but was looking for inspiration, knowing I plan to wear TOMs or other non-designer, more ethical footwear for my wedding. I think the people who commented about this looking "hick" or that brides were trying too hard missed that there could be other reasons besides aesthetic that a bride might wear TOMs or chucks. Comfort, for instance! And in the case of TOMs, a more humanitarian approach to purchasing shoes than those made in sweatshops in China (the person who mentioned Payless shoes) or extremely expensive designer shoes which may never be worn again. My fiancée and I are both planning to wear TOMs. She is wearing the crocheted ivory ones and I am planning to wear the grosgrain ballet flats. Our flower girl is wearing purple crocheted Tiny TOMs. I don't think anyone will think we have poor taste. And three children in developing countries will have also received a pair of shoes. Seems like a win-win to me.

I'm disappointed that you resurrected a zombie thread.....it's a 1.5 year old post!

There are plenty of comfortable options more appropriate than a pair of Toms or chucks. It's a formal wedding dress! Wearing something that is better paired with jeans with a wedding dress just looks ridiculous! But hey, if that's your look, go for it!

HobokensFury · July 2014

This thread is 2 years old but I'm sure people will still respond the same way.

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