And im not even two weeks into planning...
I tried to broach (sp? w/e pardon me for a few minutes) the subject of the weddig budget with my mom last weekend and she freaked. We are asking that Each set of parents try to contribute a set amount and we would contribute the same. Part of the amount we would be saving up will go towoards our honeymoon and we are budgeting for $14, 000. She flipped. "That's way too much for a wedding youre being rediculous". I added we are not planning on spending that much but we want to have some wiggle room so it's not the end of the world if we go over in one area.
My borhter is planning a $4000 wedding and she keeps saying that he needs to spend MORE.. thats fine because i think his budget is kind of unrealistic. But she tells me I am spending too much yet tells him he needs to spend over $10000 and they will help him. Whenever i try to talk finanaces with her she tells me we need to plan for your brothers wedding.
I have invitations that are around $2.00 printed. She tells me that is too much. Save the dates custom made for $1 each- too much. She hates everything i pick out. The hall she wants me to use is going to cost over 3 times the cost of teh hall we want to use but that of course, is okay. But she doesnt want to contribute anything.
The date i scheduled to view the hall she wont commit to becuase my brother is coming back into town .. at the end of the week.. cant spare an hour!
I eloped in my first marriage when i was 20 and she hated (literally) me for it but I am finding myself spending more time planning this with my FMIL than with my mom. I want to share it with both but my mo is making this absoultley miserable!
Any thoughts? I am about to write her out all together. I am not sleeping over this ad stressed to the max.