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Planner Dilemma

TysWife2BeTysWife2Be member
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So I dont know if you ladies remember but I have someone who offered to help me for no charge...

There is a backstory...

To make a long story short, she took me to 3 venues that I was NOT feeling so I ended up just saying F it and we will save the money and do it ourselves...

Anyway, now that she has offered, I feel like I dont want to deal with anyone...it seems like too much hassle.

Am I being too crazy?

She has texted me AND my friend has texted me. I understand that she is doing me a favor BUT at the same time, if I am not ready to sit down and meet and talk, let me do it on my own time...not because you feel like I should NOW...

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  • MIABRIDENTAMPAMIABRIDENTAMPA
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    edited December 2011
    You do not have to use her. I but I think because of the type of venue you want to have your wedding at, it will be good to have non family member working as DOC, to help handle things that day. With that being said, let her know your budget, your specific desires for a location, and tell her if she has venues that meet 98% of your criteria to call you and you will go with her. In the meantime you continue to look for your perfect location. Sometimes people think they know what we want and they really dont. GL
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  • desi2002desi2002 member
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    edited December 2011
    u dont have to use her. I would tell her the truth
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  • tamtam7tamtam7 member
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    edited December 2011
    I totally agree with MIABRIDE's suggestion.  It's best to go with a non-family member for the DOC anyways.  And people seem to think they know what you want when they really don't.  Hell, sometimes, I don't know.  LOL.  I think that if you are not ready to meet, you're not ready to meet, and you should be able to tell her that.
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  • TysWife2BeTysWife2Be member
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    edited December 2011
    My fear is letting her go AGAIN and needing her later on...
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  • TysWife2BeTysWife2Be member
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    edited December 2011
    Its a friend of one of my BM.,..she is the one that referred me from the jump.

    She called her and told her that she has been thinking about me and she wants to help us...bla bla bla
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  • TINAMMTINAMM member
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    edited December 2011
    i too woul have to agree with miabride, just tell what you want her to do and have her focus on the day of duties, and if you need her help here and there along the way make sure she knows what you expect and what you want from her.
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  • cincy2011cincy2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    You're under enough pressure right now with this venue to have to deal with someone else pressuring you!  I definitely agree with MIA, allow her to help from a distance for now.  Give her a little guidance and let her do her thing while you do yours - it can't hurt and will allow her to feel like she's involved.  After that task is finished you can give her more or tell her outright that you don't want to meet again until closer to the wedding day.  That is awesome that you're getting a DOC for free - my friend is doing it for me (although she is literally only helping the day of, she's not helping with any pre-planning) and I am eternally grateful to her!  
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