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So tired of the ISH

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So I'm planning to shop for my dress tomorrow and wish I was more excited about it than I am. Truth is I don't really feel like squelling for joy, when, long story short my family is going through a really difficult time right now. I really don't feel into wedding planning for this reason, when all hell is breaking loose, though I love my FI to death and would marry him tonight if I could. I just wish I could feel genuinely more excited than I am about all of this...this is definately not what I imagined planning my wedding would be like. I'm just glad I have him to lean on through it all.
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  • emilyb213emilyb213 member
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    First off, I'm sorry to hear about the stuff you and your family are dealing with right now.

    Don't put so much pressure on yourself to have the "perfect" wedding planning experience (that includes dress shopping). There is an entire industry out there that makes girls getting married feel like every single thing they do with regards to wedding planning needs to be zomg the most specialest thing evereverever. Anyways, squealing for joy is overrated. ;) The less pressure you can put on yourself, the more enjoyable things will become.

    Take a deep breath, go for a run, read a book, put on some music and dance around, anything to burn off some energy and de-stress, keep your chin up, and remember that you can always come here to vent!!

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  • cnf2013cnf2013 member
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    Sorry your family is going through a hard time. I hope things work out in the end.

    Don't stress too much. I haven't really had any giddy, crying worthy planning moments. I put on the dress I want to buy and just felt happy and was like "alright, pack it up, we can go now". I didn't buy it yet, I'm going for a second round, but I didn't cry, or get some "magical feeling". I'm definitely far from excited about a lot of the aspects of the planning process. I'm over calling a bunch of people and talking and thinking about the money this is going to cost. 

    Don't pressure yourself to think you should feel a certain way through all of this. All the wedding shows and magazines and other wedding industry crap that's thrust at us is just that, crap. Just do something that makes you happy, take a deep breath and try to enjoy the experience. 
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  • jenjennjenniferjenjennjennifer member
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    edited July 2012

    I am sorry your family is going through hard times. I agree with the other posters. Sometimes just looking at other girls' posts on weddint sites make me so overwhelmed and make me feel guilty for not being all "RA RAAAA cheerleader" about my wedding planning. This site is guilty of that too LOL!  


    I am right there with you. I am exited but not like OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG WEDDDING!!!!!!!!! Just hang in there and think about one thing at a time. We still have some time to go! I should take my own advice as well.


    Good luck with everything!

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  • blferguson1sblferguson1s
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    edited July 2012
    Everybody has pretty much hit the nail on the head. I'm praying for you and your family in whatever you're going through right now.

    As others have said, just relax. You don't have to cry all the time or squeal (I personally always roll my eyes at squealers). I'm not sure where you are in the planning process, but it might be good for you to take a week off from wedding planning. Focus on you and your happiness. Walk around in sweat pants and pig out on some junk food while reading a book. Go to a mindless movie (Ted is hilarious if you need a laugh).

    You'll have the perfect wedding planning experience for you.
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  • anastassiiatanastassiiat
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    Ditto on everyone above. I hope everything gets better in your family, and the most important thing is that your FI is there to help and support you. Good luck with everything!!!
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  • SapphireCounselorSapphireCounselor member
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    Thanks for the support guys! I am feeling  a little better about everything this morning, and I totally agree with you guys. Because of everything going on we've been taking planning slow anyway. Our wedding isn't until next summer, so we do have time for everything to work itself out. Thanks guys!
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  • sparkles776sparkles776 member
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    I have nothing else to add, but the other girls are right. The wedding industry over hypes weddings and how you should act through out the planning. I certainly was looking forward to dress shopping, had a great time while I was there, but I have never even gotten teary eyed. Just relax, and try to enjoy it!
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  • iloveu4everiloveu4ever member
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    Wish u the best! Its ok to, not be excited.

     
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