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Adressing envelopes.. women or men first?

tiffanyrenee08tiffanyrenee08
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When adressing the envelopes do the men or women go first? Is there a rule? And do people still use Ms (or Mrs) and Mr.. ? and how do you add on 'and family' ... you also write out "and" correct?

Ex: "Ms. Jane and John Doe and Family
... Seems weird and long, but is that right?

I have a wedding book I need to dig up somewhere but im so lazy..

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  • coraleetbwedcoraleetbwed member
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    "Ms. Jane and John Doe and Family"

    It's Mr. and Mrs. John Doe.
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  • GardenMavenGardenMaven
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    According to my wedding book Mr. and Mrs. should be used unless the person is a doctor, and then you write Doctor in place of Mr. or Mrs..  Military titles should be used as well. 

    For families, you put Mr. and Mrs. John Doe on the outer envelop and then use the inner envelop to elaborate.  Also list children oldest to youngest.
    Ex of inner envelop: 

    Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
    Sally and Michael

    If you are not using an inner envelop, it does say that you can put "and family".  Normally that would be for a casual event though.  

    If you are addressing two unmarried people, you need to put them on separate lines.  Put the name of the person you know best first.  If you know both well, then the woman's name goes first.  Use Ms. and Mr. for those. 
     
    ***Note this is from a wedding book and not off the top of my head!  
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  • LeiselEBLeiselEB member
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    Generally, the rule is "ladies first". You should always spell out "and" rather than use an ampersand. 

    Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

    If you're inviting the whole family, you should include each child's name in order of age, on the second line, rather than write out "and family".

    Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
    Sally, Joe, Bobby
    Address

    Are you using an inner envelope? If  so, only the parents names go on the outer envelope, and the inner would read either
    Mr. and Mrs. Smith
    Sally, Joe, Bobby

    or

    Jane and John
    Sally, Joe, Bobby

    The first way of addressing inner envelopes is the proper way, but many people prefer to use first names only on the inner envelopes. 


    If you want to include both adults' first names:
    Jane and John Doe
    or
    Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Doe

    Those really are the only correct ways to word that. 

    Hope that helps!
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  • tiffanyrenee08tiffanyrenee08
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    edited August 2012

    Well I was wondering because there are a few girls I work with and obviously want to include their husband.. but I don't want to put their husband's first (before them) on the envelope as that is extremely awkward. So that's why I wondered.

    I want to include first names.. "Mr. and Ms. Smith" seems so blah..  so I think I will go with something like:

    "Mr. Joe and Mrs. Jane Smith"
    Address

    or reverse if I know the female more personally than the male.. could/would that work? :)

    I'm not too worried about the inner envelopes at this point in time because I dont know if I will have them or not (dont know what my invites will look like) I'm just preparing WAY ahead of time!! hahaha .. But I guess I could always do the children's names inside..

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  • gailpetegailpete member
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    PPs are correct in their advice.  Also, you should never separate a man's first name from his last name.  So, if would be Jane and John Smith.  If you want to only use first names, leave out the Mr. & Mrs. titles.
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  • tiffanyrenee08tiffanyrenee08
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_adressing-invites-women-or-men-first?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:cca450a4-24e3-4d68-a882-c1c0f54bfabbPost:f10b8b41-d805-4ba8-92be-e8261f795efb">Re: Adressing envelopes.. women or men first?</a>:
    [QUOTE] Also, you should never separate a man's first name from his last name. [/QUOTE]

    Okay, so I do put the women first..
    I'm just getting a little confused.. lol..
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  • AMISSA31AMISSA31
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    I mailed out our STDs and addressed them as  "Jane and John Doe".

    When we mail out the formal invitations they will be addressed as " Mr. and Mrs. John Doe"
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