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blondii428
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Rehearsal dinner
I know that it is expected that the bride and groom pay for the rehearsal dinner but do you think it would be terrible to have people pay for themselves? As long as it isn't required that they attend?
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Re: Rehearsal dinner
[QUOTE]I know that it is expected that the bride and groom pay for the rehearsal dinner but do you think it would be terrible to have people pay for themselves? As long as it isn't required that they attend?
Posted by blondii428[/QUOTE]
Nope, you can't do this. The B&G aren't the only ones that case host the RD (my H's parents hosted ours), but the key word is it's hosted for the guests. Like PP said, you don't need to do a rehearsal and RD if you really don't want to. And there is nothing that says it has to be expensive.....pizza and pop is fine.
[QUOTE]I know that it is expected that the bride and groom pay for the rehearsal dinner but do you think it would be terrible to have people pay for themselves? As long as it isn't required that they attend?
Posted by blondii428[/QUOTE]
The point of the rehearsal dinner is to feed the people who came to rehearse for your ceremony as a way to thank them.
If you aren't requiring it, then I'm guessing you don't really need a rehearsal? Don't have one, then. Then, you won't need to have a rehearsal dinner and you'll save money.
[QUOTE]In Response to Rehearsal dinner : Nope, you can't do this. The B&G aren't the only ones that case host the RD (my H's parents hosted ours), but the key word is it's hosted for the guests. Like PP said, you don't need to do a rehearsal and RD if you really don't want to. <strong>And there is nothing that says it has to be expensive.....pizza and pop is fine</strong>.
Posted by lwoehlk[/QUOTE]
<div>I was just going to recommend this.</div><div>
</div><div>It doesn't have to be anything fancy. But You shouldn't request that the guests pay.</div>
Make sure you skip the rehearsal AND the dinner. Don't ask your wedding party to rehearse and then send them on their way and just skip the dinner part.
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The rehearsal dinner is something of a thank you for your attendants for putting time into the wedding and into the rehearsal. I'd price out pizza and soda, BBQ, sandwich trays, or other non-restaurant type of options. Another idea might be to think about whether or not your ceremony timing and venue and day-of logistics would allow you to rehearse that morning - where you could provide coffee and a breakfast spread.
[QUOTE]I know that it is expected that the bride and groom pay for the rehearsal dinner but do you think it would be terrible to have people pay for themselves? As long as it isn't required that they attend?
Posted by blondii428[/QUOTE]
Awful idea. Skip the rehearsal and dinner if you can't afford to pay for it. Most people are capable of being able to walk down an aisle when told it's their turn.
If you don't have a rehearsal you can just tell your BP and friends that you and FI will be at X restaurant at X time if they want to join. Then they pay for themselves without you breaking etiquette (again, this is only if you DON'T have a rehearsal)
[QUOTE]I know that it is expected that the bride and groom pay for the rehearsal dinner but do you think it would be terrible to have people pay for themselves? As long as it isn't required that they attend?
Posted by blondii428[/QUOTE]
yes, it would be rude. It doesn't have to be fancy, so pick something like pizza or something