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HELP!! Still waiting on RSVPs

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I still have 36 families that haven't RSVP'd. THis is bugging me. Most are from my FI's family or friends of his so he is  calling  them ( his decision) . What should i do if by this Friday we still have some that we can't get ahold of? I"m less then 3 weeks out from the wedding and i need to tell my cake baker and caterer the final numbers ASAP so my dad can pay them in full so we don't have to worry about paying anyone the week of the wedding.

Should i just count them as "no's" at that point or what? we can only try so many times to get ahold of people.
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    peachykeen26peachykeen26 member
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    No, you should count them as yes until you hear otherwise. It is always better to have more than less.
    If you don't receive them all, you need to call them or get ahold of everyone that didn't reply and say, "Hey, just wondered if you got your wedding invitation? We were wondering if you were going to be able to join us or not."
    Also, you need to divy up the calling. You can't expect FI to do it all.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_help-still-waiting-on-rsvps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:439559d7-664f-4a4e-8f7c-2d0b0ffb8fb0Post:68f65966-98be-48d2-b5ac-2d0a59ca128b">Re: HELP!! Still waiting on RSVPs</a>:
    [QUOTE]No, you should count them as yes until you hear otherwise. It is always better to have more than less. <strong>If you don't receive them all, you need to call them or get ahold of everyone that didn't reply and say, "Hey, just wondered if you got your wedding invitation? We were wondering if you were going to be able to join us or not." Also, you need to divy up the calling. You can't expect FI to do it all.
    </strong>Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]

    agree. you need to reach out to them and ask them, you can't "assume" anything. you know what happens when you assume something
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    littleluckypennylittleluckypenny member
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    I say in your final contact, let them know that "if we don't hear from your by xx date, we cannot accommodate you". Can FMIL help if it is FI's family that's holding things up?
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    futuremrsbecerrafuturemrsbecerra
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_help-still-waiting-on-rsvps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:439559d7-664f-4a4e-8f7c-2d0b0ffb8fb0Post:68f65966-98be-48d2-b5ac-2d0a59ca128b">Re: HELP!! Still waiting on RSVPs</a>:
    [QUOTE]No, you should count them as yes until you hear otherwise. It is always better to have more than less. If you don't receive them all, you need to call them or get ahold of everyone that didn't reply and say, "Hey, just wondered if you got your wedding invitation? We were wondering if you were going to be able to join us or not." Also, you need to divy up the calling. You can't expect FI to do it all.
    Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]

    My FI wants to do the calls for his side. He volunteered and agreed so I'm letting him. THe issue is not that we haven't called, it is that we have called and called and are not hearing back from them.
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    Danidawn20Danidawn20
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    I would then leave them a message saying if I don't here from you by this date, I can not accomadate you for the wedding, seeing as I need to give the catorer(or who ever is doing your food) the final number onthat date.  
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    LambbopLambbop member
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    I just passed the 2 week mark with 7people who FI and I just could NOT get a hold of. I stayed up at night worrying about it, being frustrated, emailing them, etc.

    I finally decided to not worry about them. I said "eff it" and just planned for those few more meals. I also added one more table at my reception for "No RSVP" guests. I don't want to deal with tracking down those last few numbers... too many other details! If they don't care enough to put a postcard in the mail, then I am not going to lose any more sleep waiting for them to find their mailboxes/answer emails/answer phone calls/be decent human beings.

    I would suggest trying phone calls to a point... but then you just have to get over it and decide your sanity is worth the few more dinners you are buying for possible guests.
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    MrsAMSMrsAMS
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    Our RSVP date was Tuesday the 15th, and we still have 13 missing... We started contacting people last night. 

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_help-still-waiting-on-rsvps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:439559d7-664f-4a4e-8f7c-2d0b0ffb8fb0Post:fd0d7b47-94ef-4c64-8f7c-9bc857cad2c3">Re: HELP!! Still waiting on RSVPs</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: HELP!! Still waiting on RSVPs : My FI wants to do the calls for his side. He volunteered and agreed so I'm letting him. THe issue is not that we haven't called, it is that we have called and called and are not hearing back from them.
    Posted by futuremrsbecerra[/QUOTE]


    Then you need to continue to count them as yes's until the day AFTER the wedding.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_help-still-waiting-on-rsvps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:439559d7-664f-4a4e-8f7c-2d0b0ffb8fb0Post:7df6f61c-3d7a-4646-8483-13dfa6148a6d">HELP!! Still waiting on RSVPs</a>:
    [QUOTE]I still have 36 families that haven't RSVP'd. THis is bugging me. Most are from my FI's family or friends of his so he is  calling  them ( his decision) . What should i do if by this Friday we still have some that we can't get ahold of? I"m less then 3 weeks out from the wedding and i need to tell my cake baker and caterer the final numbers ASAP so my dad can pay them in full so we don't have to worry about paying anyone the week of the wedding. Should i just count them as "no's" at that point or what? we can only try so many times to get ahold of people.
    Posted by futuremrsbecerra[/QUOTE]

    I am also having trouble, but I have until June 24th so I'm not quite upset yet.  I think that your Fiance should make the calls if they are still missing from his side. I've already told mine that he will be in charge of that because his side is also slacking with their rsvps. Also, did u set up ur wedding website with the knot? You could always shoot some an email and have them use the reply online option.   It tallys them right into your guest list and summary on here.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
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