Proper wording for bride & bride's parents sharing costs

tracyarlington · June 2010

Hi,
I couldn't find an exact rule on this. My parents and I are sharing the costs of the wedding pretty much 50-50. The groom and his father will host the rehearsal dinner which will have a separate invite to recognize them.

So, I don't think that having only my parents name on top is the right answer, but I don't feel that "together with their families" is appropriate here (since it's really just my family), and the knot wording wizard doesn't have an answer for me either - help!

What to do? Thanks in advance!

Karen's MOH · June 2010

I would probably just go with the traditional "Mr and Mrs Bride Parents request..." When I get an invite that says that, I don't assume the parents are paying for it all. The invite isn't like an invoice where everything has to be allocated.

Also, whether you or your fi are paying for it, I would think of it as the couple paying.

banana468 · June 2010

Ditto PP. I'd just list your parents as hosts. And I generally see the couple as doing things jointly. If it's just the bride's name listed, I wonder why she (or he if it's the groom only) needs to get the credit separately from the SO.