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Does my dad have to give me away?

smtaylorivsmtayloriv
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My dad's g/f just had a baby and can't afford to be @ my wedding well my fiance INSIST that I have someone give me away. Since my dad can't be in attendance I was thinking of who could give me away! My family says it HAS to be a male I dont have many male models in my family that I look up to. Thought about asking my mama ex he was a really big part of my life, helped me get my first car and whatever else I've ever needed....BUT....he just got married so I dont know how well that would go over with his wife. Then I thought about asking my cousin (who helped raise me) husband but she is really iffy and sometime I think she doesn't really like me maybe she just over mothering me but she treats me different than my other cousins I dont know I got 3 months to figure this all out HELP! (sorry a little venting)

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  • PB-Bride2010PB-Bride2010
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    edited December 2011
    It doesn't have to be a male.....you can have your mother, if you have a child.....whose so ever you fill that has played a important role in your life. GL with your decision :-)
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  • PB-Bride2010PB-Bride2010
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    edited December 2011
    Or you can just walk yourself....plenty of people do that too!! :-)
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  • djscatdjscat
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    edited December 2011
    If you do choose to have someone give you away to me the logical choice would be your mom.  For me since both of my parents raise me both of my parents are walking me down the aisle.  It does not have to be a man who gives you away.  I should be someone who helped raise you to be the woman you are today.  IMHO that would be your mom.  It doesn't matter what "your family" says it's not their wedding.  It is your wedding.  I have seen many many many wedding where the bride is walked down the aisle by her mother.  Walking the bride down the aisle is an honor and your mom should not be overlooked simply because she is a woman. 

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  • Gift928Gift928
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    edited December 2011
    My brother is walking me down the aisle only because my dad wont be able to attend our US wedding.
    It ended up being either my brother or my uncle. Both of which i'm fine with.

    I think you should really consider your mom as opposed to substituting with people you arent too sure of.
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  • mahoganieyesmahoganieyes
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    edited December 2011
    There is nothing wrong with walking down alone. Your fiance can even meet you half way down the aisle and walk hand-to-hand down the aisle together.


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  • sheshedukeshesheduke member
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    edited December 2011
    My mom and dad are giving me away and if my dad hadn't got on the good foot recently it would have just been my mom. I don't see anything wrong with that.
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  • tcage001tcage001
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    edited December 2011
    My brother is walking me down because my dad can't walk. The last wedding I went to the bride walked in by herself and it was just fine!
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  • smtaylorivsmtayloriv
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    edited December 2011
    Oh sorry I didnt mention my mom refuses to be in attendance! Eh ((sorry dont mean to seem like I'm yelling))
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  • Ksk2012Ksk2012
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    edited December 2011
    you mean your mom isnt coming to the wedding or refuses to walk you down? I say walk down alone.
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  • missowensmissowens
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    edited December 2011
    Sorry to hear that neither your mom nor dad will be at the wedding, maybe something will change and they'll attend  :)  Do you have any older siblings (brother or sister) that could give you away?  Many brides walk themselves down the aisle too.
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  • FabbiegirlFabbiegirl member
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    edited December 2011
    No one has to give you away, and if you want someone to, it can be a female.  People think tradition = fact and must have.  It isn't so.  Don't be pressured.  Do what feels best for you.
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  • M1ssJM1ssJ member
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    If your parents can't do it walk down alone, your moment, your spotlight!
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  • smtaylorivsmtayloriv
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    edited December 2011
    I mean refuses as in she will not come and doesnt care to oh well her fault lol! Thanks ladies! I prefered to walk alone and have my family give me away lol! I dont see a point in tradition its tradition to get married in a church but we arent doing that either. HUM
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  • MrsAllenToBe1123MrsAllenToBe1123
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    edited December 2011

    I wanted my dad to walk be down the aisle but we aren't on good terms due to this wedding (long story) so I'm going to ask my mom to walk me down. She very supportive of me and my FH

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  • ThunderKitten2011ThunderKitten2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    Both my brothers are walking me down the aisle. I love this. Do it your way!
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