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Siblings.. what role are they playing in your wedding??? Vent

HUh... Can i vent for a second. so i had to get off the phone with my mom because we was light weight arguing about my brother.. I am going to stop telling her stuff about the wedding and just  let her be shocked with the rest of the guest.. I am soooo aggravated... and me and her have an excellent relationship.. excellent.. So she wants to nag about my brother not standing up as a groomsmen. I have expressed to FI in the past how I wanted him to be up there, but he said he not asking me to have his sister and cousins so i said ok.. and left it at that... I won't argue, it's his day too, and he has a lot of friends and i can't make him be up there.. so then we going down the list of stuff that we have to pay and deposits, etc.. she mentions the party bus, she said is kev going to be on there.. i say no, she say well you not including him on anything, he not on your wedding site, standing up there, or nothing.. I asked him and my dad to walk me down.. what more do she want me to do.. he can do  a scripture or something. idk.. I dk what to do.. is it weird having him stand on my side with a tux.. and do a scripture.. Dang.. I need ya'll help..
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  • {hugs sweets} 

    he could be your Man of Honor.    that way you include him "up there" in mom's words lol and your hubs isn't obligated to have him on his side of the altar.   as far as how it looks to anyone else, what's important is that did what your heart led you to do.   and for the record i've seen it done, just the other way around - a groom who had a "best woman" because his best friend was a girl.    it'll come to you babe.  good luck ;)
  • I see both sides lol. Personally, I think that your wedding party should be people that you are very close to and the girl pics the ladies she wants by her side throughout the process with planning, the shower, bachelorette and getting ready the day of. The guy does the same for his men. I see how your mom feels like bro isnt included being that this is one of the biggest days of your life she just wants him to be part of it. On the other hand I think that if he isnt close w/ FI & doesnt know any of his friends he may feel weird around them when it comes to bachelor party & getting ready the day of. I like sultrys idea of Man of Honor and I also like your idea of him walking you down and doing a scripture.
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  • Aww (hugs) sorry you are going through this but I had to go through the same thing...my brother from my dad wasn't in my wedding but my dad was like well what are you going to do about him sooo I put him in as a Jr. Groomsmen who he is going to escort I have no clue because my daughter, FSD, and niece are my jr bridesmaids....

    I agree with Sultry though..do what your heart leads you too!
  • I've heard of man of honor standing with the bride
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  • Thank you ladies.. Love ya'll.. Just like BFF me and mom called each other back and she said he is thrilled walking me down with my dad.. me and my bro are close and him and FI are close too but FI has a ton of friends.. and maybe he is over looking brother.. but like ya'll said i can't make him add him.. so i will have him walk me down and then do a scripture and he will take pics with the fam and then he will take pictures with the bridal party.. and hang on the party bus.. and i will even have him a little chair up there at the table if he want to sit there. he is important to me and him participating is important too.. I may let him have make a speech at the reception. Thanks ya'll.. Moving on to the next thing.. LOL..
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  • Glad you came to a compromise! Cause Mama Bears are important!
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  • I think you made a good decision Key! Yay for compromises! Cha
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    [QUOTE]Glad you came to a compromise! <strong>Cause Mama Bears are important</strong>!
    Posted by MissusD1116[/QUOTE]

    @ MissusD and Cha.. ya'll right. i even updated the wedding site to add his picture.. Compromise is important.
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    [QUOTE]What does your brother say? I am still trying figure out who to ask to give me away my brother *got 2 of them* or my uncle
    Posted by thedivav[/QUOTE]

    @thedivav.. i don't think he cares.. as long as he is doing something, he is cool.. I am going to have him and my dad escort me. If you are close with both of your brothers. have both of them escort you. that way both feel included in your day..
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  • YAY!!! I'm glad it worked out & yay for his pic being added :)
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  • Glad it worked out hun.
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  • Dont feel bad. I included my brothers by having them walk me down the aisle and my older brother blessed the food at the wedding. They were not on the website. My younger brother went with Husband to the bachelor party. neither rode on the trolley. I listed them in the program as escoting me. You are fine with having them do just that.
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  • How does your dad feel about sharing that role with your brother? Who is walking in with your mom?  My brother is my only sibling as he escorted my mom in to the reception and they were both happy with that.  His name was listed as an usher.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Siblings.. what role are they playing in your wedding??? Vent : @thedivav.. i don't think he cares.. as long as he is doing something, he is cool.. I am going to have him and my dad escort me. If you are close with both of your brothers. have both of them escort you. that way both feel included in your day..
    Posted by keysmit[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>i have to think on that one </div><div>because of recent events *my dad passing* it might be easier to have my uncle do it..</div><div>i have to talk to them about it... i was closer to my middle brother *we are 2 years apart* than my youngest brother *we live together* </div><div>*sigh* ion know on this one lol i will deal with it later lol 

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