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My Bridesmaids can't get along!

So I have 5 bridesmaids 2 are my sisters 2 are my FI's sisters and 1 is a very close mutual friend of Fi and I's. So I got all ove my BM's together to go dress shoppign with me and since it's hard to get everyone together I decided to kill to birds with one stone and Dress shop for me and my bridesmaids in the same appointment. So we get there and none of my BM's say hi to each other (most of them have met before), so that started the appointment off awkward. Then I guess no one spoke to each other while I was changing in and out of dresses. The good news is I found my dress! yay! Then we go to shop for my BM's my sisters are very thin and my FI's sisters and not so thin. My sisters are trying on all kinds of dresses and my Fi's sister are just sitting there staring. So I decided to end the appointment without finding a dress for them. When we get back to my FI's sisters house, she unloads on my about how My sister was rude for not saying hi. ummmm you could have said hi to my sister! which she didnt do....The complains to my FI about it in front of me! Later when I talk to my sister later she tells me she felt like my FI's sister's were making fun of her! Now one wants to talk to each other and I'm the one who has to hear from everyone about this incident...How can I get them all to get along!?

Re: My Bridesmaids can't get along!

  • If they start coming to you again and complaining about one another tell them to shut it.  They are adults and if they have issues with each other then they need to work it out between themselves without involving you.

    With that being said, even though they will technically be family once you get married does not mean that they have to become friends or even like each other just because they are in your bridal party.  As long as everyone acts civil to one another and none of them continue to drag you into the fighting or bickering then that is all that matters.

  • Ditto PP.  Your bridesmaids don't have to be friends with each other, so I wouldn't worry about it.  They are all adults, they can still be a BM to you, even if they don't like each other.
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  • I'm really just worried that they won't even be able to get along on the actual day of the wedding, we are all supposed to get ready together and I don't want to have to feel like a referee on my wedding day.
  • TK ate your post, so I have none of the backstory, but tell your bridesmaids to leave you out of it and to grow up. I was in a wedding last summer and I really didn't like one of the bridesmaids, but she was close to the bride and I had to suck it up. I put on my Disney face and left the bride out of it when planning the shower and bachelorette. 
  • I feel for you...two of my bridesmaids didn't get along and sent each other nasty emails then complained to me about each other....then got mad when I didn't take sides.. I broke down crying over it one day...my advice (which I didn't do but wish I did)...talk to them one one one and explain that you care about all of them and want each of them to be a part of your special day...somehow explain that they don't have to neccessarily be friends but for your sake need to get along.
       The good news is they both got along the day of (one didn't get ready with us though due to their feelings but I totally agreed with her and understood)
        The bad news is one decided she no longer wanted to be friends with me because of my friendship with the other bridesmaid and how I handled the whole situation :(
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