Fiance` wants to go cheap on Photographer

Re: Fiance` wants to go cheap on Photographer

• Amandarose531

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  You are not alone, mine is against even hiring one though he has recently said "We'll get whatever you want" - sad puppy-eyes and all.  I'm looking in the same price range, and it baffles both him and my FMIL that I can even consider that, and not even get prints out of it. I've tried explaining the copyright release but neither seem to hear me and I get talked over a lot.
  
  I'm cutting costs elsewhere, my dress is beautiful but very simple and inexpensive, I nixed a dj for a family friend who volunteered for free, kegs and boxed wine, I even found flowers that fit perfectly from a wholesale - a fraction of the cost of a florist.
  
  Oh well. If it's one thing i've learned, i'm just going to have to do it myself if I want it done the way I like.

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• Cony&Ben

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  Does your FI want to have a professional photographer at all? Maybe show him the difference in quality between cheap and expensive photographers? We are spending under $1000 for our photographer but we were able to find an independent photographer whose portfolio we really liked. If I had the money, there are several photographers in the $3000-$4000 range that I would love to hire!

  
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• mandi921vh member

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  Explain to him that after the wedding is over (and all of the money has been spent) the only thing you have (except the memories) to remember the wedding by is the photographs. While your memories will fade over time the pics will always be around for you two to remember one of the happiest days of your lives. 

  

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• KelaRenee

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  My FI doesn't understand, but when he realized how important it was to me, he was okay with it.  (He's a little miffed that the photog budget is higher than the alcohol budget though.)

  

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• Dvargas028 member

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  my fiance is the same way ... he wants to spend no more than $1000 but spend more on a videographer ... i jus dont get it ... aahhh gets me soo mad : (

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• geminagi member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  DVargas028:
  I recently had a videographer try to sell a client on choosing videography over photography. And this is what this guy said. When your grandkids want to see your wedding they are going to want to watch a movie not look through a book.
  I laughed silently to myself because my first thought was, what a nightmare that would be. I REALLY don't want to see my grandparents smooching in real time! Much better a photo album where you can easily look at a pic and move on without offending the grandparents by turning off the DVD or looking aghast! I think that might be how they sell some people on the idea, but the reality is much different. There is something about a special moment literally frozen in time, in which only a photograph can provide. Pausing just doesn't take your breath away in the same way. Just a thought you might be able to share with your FI.
  Good luck to you ladies. Most of the guys will sooner or later come around and yes show them the difference between what cheap buys and what regular/artistic photographers go for.

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• pab128 member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  mine FREAKED out when i started to show him some of the prices for these photographers. Now Im all about trying not to break the bank either, but these are the memories we are going to have from our wedding for the rest of our lives! we decided to try and keep it within $2000 range. Which works, there are a lot of them in our area where we can get what we want within that price.

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• GenesisMoss member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  WOW. Why would anyone skip out on photography for a wedding? Or even cheap out? It's one of the biggest moments in your marriage other than the birth of your future children. Once the event is over, it's over. I mean, what else are you going to keep forever and pass down for future generations other than maybe your wedding dress? Poor guys.....they're just clueless LOL. And btw, I'm in Los Angeles and $1500 is a bargain basement price. The average cost of a photog that's not a total hack is $2500 and that's without prints or an album. So lobby hard for that $1500 price because it's good!

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