If one more person asks...

jsarver14 · September 2012

if they can now bring a date (12 days out), I'm going to cut someone. Seriously.

halij52002 · September 2012

Ha! They better not even play themselves! Because I will look at them like they have two heads....

goatlady12 · September 2012

I have a weekly list of people I would like to punch in the throat about this! Or if they can have their 5 year old come and waste a plate of food I paid for. Really frustrating.

achiduck · September 2012

SO annoying. I am so thankful we only had one person do this!

jsarver14 · September 2012

My thought is: if this person didn't mean enough to you a few months ago OR if you didn't know them before 12 days before the wedding, it's not my job to accommodate you. If it was my oversight, I will accommodate you.

People drive me bananas (seriously had to sing holla back girl to spell that correctly)

jessiflower · September 2012

We intentionally left about 10 "floating" people in our guest list for possible +1's. I learned this from all the frustration on these boards...lol....that way we didn't have to be faced with the dilemma of the +1 and IF is was okay...we are glad we did this, as we have had 4 people add the +1...but since we planned for the unplanned...its been fine...

AllieHysh19 · September 2012

We are now having aunts and uncles respond for 18 year old cousins for their "dates" - we already said, no dates.... family only (unless we have met them, and they are serious...) we have told them that they can come for the dance, but they are now adamant that the date MUST be welcome for dinner.... at $50 a plate, I don't F***ing think so.....

Alisha9544 · September 2012

This is soooo annoying. I was venting to FI that I think they need to start having an etiquette class in schools. It never ceases to amaze me as to how rude people can be.

jsarver14 · September 2012

One of FI's aunts also RSVPd for her adult daughter, her three adult children, and one of adult children's SO's.....I'm so over this wedding thing.

mbuckley85 · September 2012

We had three people do this.

The first was an elderly man with Parkinson's. He had a live-in girlfriend that we didn't know about (actually FMIL did know about her but didn't put her on the list). We told him yes.

The second was one of FI's groomsmen. Everyone says we should have allowed him to bring a guest, but he is truly single (he hasn't dated anyone since high school, like 9 years ago) and was just going to find a friend to bring. We are seating him at a table with his friends. He will survive the night without a guest. I know you can't dictate the guest someone brings, but I can tell you this guy probably would have brought one of two girls who he is friendly with that FI was friendly with as well in high school, but actually can't stand. There was a reason we didn't include them on our special day and that is because we didn't want them there. I know we wouldn't have any interaction with them really, but I still didn't like the idea of them being there.

The third was a female friend of FI's from way back that we weren't going to invite, but we both reconnected with since she lives close to us. She's very nice and means well. She really only asked out of curiosity and we did tell her no but promised to sit her with people she knew. She knows two of the groomsmen, including the one that was invited without a guest, so she should be just fine. She is super social and friendly anyway.

I just have a problem with people inviting random guests just for the hell of it to eat and drink off our tab.

Ividian · September 2012

We had the space to invite a +1 for all our single guests so this is one problem I thankfully did not have to deal with. We also invited everybody's kids.

lulu4150 · September 2012

One of my friends at work is bringing a gf because she doesn't know many of the people at the wedidng and I can understand it coould be awkward and boring. But today she's like my friend wants to know if she can bring her 3 year old child! Seriously! I can't believe that her friend even asked her that!! My friend knew I'd say no and encouraged I say no (kid is a brat). The nerve of some people!

Lrini1 · September 2012

My mom insisted I invite her cousin that I hardly know. I'm not inviting children under 18 other than 1st cousins, so he was just one guest and I gave in. He's single but has two children. He RSVP'ed for 4! Mom asked who the others were and he said his daughter (14) son (age 16) and son's girlfriend! Really, you think I want to provide some 16 year old stranger's girlfriend with a $50 steak when I had to cut people I actually know from my guest list?
I even wrote the names of invited guests on the RSVP cards because I learned from my cousin's wedding that my mom's family doesn't get that an invitation doesn't mean bring everyone you know, and people are still adding guests.
Then again my RSVP deadline was last Thursday. I'm still waiting on 67 responses of 231. Not one person from my dad's immediate family has bothered to respond. I want to scream "YOU'RE MY GRANDFATHER! YOU SAY YOU'RE COMING. I SENT YOU A PRESTAMPED SELF ADDRESSED ENVELOPE, JUST TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT TO EAT!" My dad asked me to look up a resort's number and send it to his super tech-savvy brother (who has stayed there plenty of times) so uncle could reserve a room. He is just as capable to look up Quail Hollow from his iphone as I am. And if he's planning on travelling here for the wedding, SEND THE RSVP!

Sorry, I just feel your pain all too well.

PattySmith101 · September 2012

i invited + ones ! so i am not having this problem i invited every single person with a + 1 and suprisingly most of them are not bringing anyone! thats where the majority of my no replys have come in!!!!

oh and all i have to say i am very jealous of you ladies that have $50 pp entrees!!! our are $100 + pp adult entrees and $50 per kid entree!!!

CandiceAdam · September 2012

hahah.... that is funny. I have people that were planning on bringing plus ones texting me to see if they can come solo or if I have given a final head count. Thank goodness I have not called in the final #'s yet. :-) Don't want any strangers there just to fill a seat but if it comes down to it someone might as well eat the food.

soleildhiver · September 2012

Our wedding is 5 weeks away. my FI's dad asked if his new girlfriend can bring her two (ADULT) children including a date for one of them. um... NO! I have never met these people and you expect me to let them come to our wedding and drink for free?? the best part was what they said after they ambushed us about it (together, rather than his dad discreetly asking us alone) "Oh, great. I'm glad they can come. Daughter was going to crash the wedding anyway if you said no"

.................

WHAT?! Pretty sure if we saw that a random girl whom neither of us has ever met was getting drinks at our bar, we would assume that she is from the ballroom across the hall and kick her out.

rage. Anyway, apparently they are coming but FI's dad said he would make sure all of their drinks/corkage fees are paid for. ugh.

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