Wedding Crashers - are you worried about them?

mrshall1027 · July 2012

My mom asked if I was inviting this one person that is good friends with the older people in my family. Although I know who he is, I wouldn't consider him a friend or someone I would invite to a party, let alone my wedding. Well, she made the comment of "I wouldn't be surprised if he just showed up" so that freaked me out a bit. Then I started thinking, what if a single person just assumes they can bring a date or if people that RSVP no, or didn't RSVP at all and I'm unsuccesful in contacting them, just show up. I made it clear on the RSVP card how many seats we have reserved for each individual/couple/family, but I'm sure some people will either ignore it or not even read it.

I know I am probably over thinking this, but I'd still like to get a back up plan in place in case something like this happens. What are you going to do if unintended people show up to your wedding?

brainybrunette · July 2012

I'm not antticipating any wedding crashers, but I guess you never know.

I did make a funny photo booth sign that says WEDDING CRASHER! LOL

AEPerpete · July 2012

I think the best plan is usually to ignore/ not worry about the person. If someone brings someone who you weren't aware was coming/didn't invite, then last minute efforts could be made by the caterer/event planner etc to try to accomodate this person, however the person will realize they were not planned for.
If someone shows up uninvited and does anything to make a scene/ ruin a moment, you can see if the venue has security, and you can tell them to ask that person to leave. Alternatively, if there is no security, you could ask that a family member or friend be on the lookout for said person and they can deal with them in a matter that seems appropriate.
If they come uninvited, but they aren't doing anything to upset you, my best advice would be to let it roll off your back. Their prescence will only irritate you if you let them.
Good Luck!

ericaandtom2012 · July 2012

I am not anticipating any wedding crashers. If any people show up that weren't invited or wander over from the restaurant that is attached (you have to go down a looooooooong hallway to get to the banquet hall from the restaurant so I'm not all that worried), I probably won't even notice. There aren't any particular people that I definitely do not want there. If there were and I saw them at the event, I'd probably say something to the banquet coordinator and have them deal with it.

Generally, I would think people that RSVP no would not show up without calling the couple to say "plans changed, I'm available now" which is awful and awkward to deal with.

tamrahelmer · July 2012

I'm not anticipating any. On the other hand, my mom is from a family of 8 kids, and all of my uncles/aunts are invited except one. I really don't like him and he's said some mean things in my past so I'd rather not have him there. I originally figured he wouldn't get an invite so he wouldn't know the details, but not I'm afraid another uncle will think I just forgot to invite him and will pass along the information.

I say if you do get wedding crasheres, you just have to take it in stride. Not everything is going to go perfect on the wedding day. I've just gotten it in my head that I have to accept that. However, its pretty bad ettiquette for them if a person does show up who wasn't invited. If it's someone you really don't want there because they will make a scene, then have someone on the lookout for them if they do show up.

lehc723 · July 2012

I'm not anticipating any, although I guess no one ever really anticipates it, ha. So far, our RSVPs have come through pretty clearly with who all is invited and coming, and we haven't heard stories of people wanting to bring someone who wasn't invited. But maybe we're lucky and it does happen?

mrshall1027 · July 2012

I think I am just over thinking it. I'm hoping that everyone will have etiquette in mind and respect the RSVP, lol!

FI thinks this will happen more then I do, which is scarry since about 70% of the guest list is his side and of course he knows them better then I do. He thinks we should set up an extra table just in case, but I really don't want some random table off to the side and I don't want to spend the money on dressing it up.

Ugh, all the stupid little things you have to worry about when planning a wedding!

Alisha9544 · July 2012

I'm big time worried about wedding crashers! My FI is a DJ & so we know a lot of people from all over. When people first heard we were engaged they actually went as far as telling FI I don't care if I get invited or not, that's a party I'm showing up to! Tacky to say the least.

irishangieb · July 2012

I wouldn't say I'm real worried about them, but that's because I've accepted that I'll have a few crashers. There are people that I really do not want there, and know that they will probably find out the whereabouts, I'm hoping they just act like adults and stay away, but I'm anticipating the worst and hoping for the best with regard to that.
As far as planning for crashers, I know that the caterer that I have has already told me that "there are always people who rsvp back with a "can't make it" then end up showing up OR that say they are coming alone then last minute, decide to come. However there are occasions where people say they are coming, then don't show up, or show up late, after dinner. either way, she says that she always has extra in case of situations where extra people make their way in.
I feel, if you show up uninvited, or after you've already told me you're not coming (without letting me know plans have changed), then its your problem and you run the risk of not getting dinner.

Hope it doesnt happen to any of us, but good luck dealing with it if it does.

shoebie · July 2012

Our reception is on an Army base they would have a hard time getting past the armed guards lol. I would not sweat it most adults know when they are not invited unless your mother told him "yea, just stop by"....... If he shows up he will be the silly looking one with out a seat.

huskerfan246 · July 2012

Our wedding is at a country club outside of town so i'm not anticipating it, but then again, anything can happen. I have a couple good friends who are helping us out with our Wedding Reception and I had mentioned to them about watching out for unwanted guests and they said no problem they will be right on top of it. Now i'm not saying throw them out, but atleast be aware of them, in case they are there to stir up trouble.

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