Married Groomsman and Bridesmaid...

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• crash2729 member

  

  August 2012 edited August 2012

  The B&G certainly don't have to be the only married couple walking during the day. 

  If neither are MOH/BM there is no harm in them walking together. I actually think it would be a very nice gesture.

  
  

  ETA: There is also no harm in them walking apart. 

  
  

  

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• LeiselEB member

  

  August 2012

  There's no rule. If you could arrange it so they can walk together, it'd be nice - just so they could have a picture of them walking together. But not a huge deal. 

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• willywally5 member

  

  August 2012

  DD/FSIL have a married couple in the WP. The guy is the best  man and the woman is a bridesmaid. They could care less who they walk with. The will be together all the rest of the time and they are cool with that. I think it depends on the people. Ask them what they'd rather do or if it even matters to them.

  

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• cnf2013 member

  

  August 2012

  We have two couple in our wedding party, including the MOH and BM. We plan on having our WP walk down in pairs and figured the couples would walk in together. Makes perfect sense to me. I don't see any reason to split them up. 

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• freebread03 member

  

  August 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_married-groomsman-and-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:931f5c6b-a7ba-432e-8ed6-546b279631bcPost:6ebb1070-bf89-42d1-8110-29e0fdef4e9a">Married Groomsman and Bridesmaid...</a>:
  [QUOTE]What is the proper etiquette... or even tradition about already married groomsman and bridesmaid walking as a pair during the ceremony.  <strong>I've heard that the only married couple that should be walking during the ceremony is the bride and groom</strong>.... but I've also heard that the already married groomsman and his wife (the bridesmaid) should be walking together, and that it would be weird if they didn't.  Both are NOT BM or MOH.  Anyone's opinion? J
  Posted by hawaiinights21@hotmail.com[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>Well, assuming that this is a real wedding (and not a PPD do-over), then the bride and groom won't be married yet when the bridal party walks in...so I don't see the issue.  Actually, I don't see any issue of who walks with whom, and would think it would be WEIRD if they DIDN'T walk together.</div>

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• cbvcru67 member

  

  August 2012

  The "only married couple walking down the aisle"  thing is ridiculous. 
  
  And OP its not your fault someone gave you bad advice, you're only ridiculous if you listen to it.
  
  The aisle becomes no less sacred if someone else graces it with their married presence.
  
  I think it would be weird to purposefully split them up.  If you can have them walk together, it would be nice.  If for some reason it doesn't work out, no one should care.  Walking down the aisle as a BM with someone other than your husband will not make you a cheater or ruin your marriage.

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• jcg98 member

  

  August 2012

  We had a married BM and GM.  They walked together because we thought they would like that.  No one side-eyed, objected or otherwise questioned that decision. 
  

   
    
  

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• DramaGeek member

  

  August 2012

  We had a married couple in our party, and three halves of couples.  I don't see why having someone who is married to another WP member walk with someone other than their spouse is any different than a WP member whose spouse isn't in the WP walking with someone.

  
  

  H and I each, individually, ordered our party by closest to us to least close relationship.  Then we compared lists and saw who would walk together.  Honestly, it's a 60 second walk, it's not a big deal.

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• NOLAbridealmost member

  

  August 2012

  Am I the only one who'd be a little miffed if I was paired with someone other than my H when he's also in the WP?  It just makes sense that you'd pair the married couple (or, in fact, any couple that happens to be in the WP) together. 

  
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• Klikina member

  

  August 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_married-groomsman-and-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:931f5c6b-a7ba-432e-8ed6-546b279631bcPost:4d9ac1ec-a476-4784-9726-6287a1e78c45">Re: Married Groomsman and Bridesmaid...</a>:
  [QUOTE]Am I the only one who'd be a little miffed if I was paired with someone other than my H when he's also in the WP?  It just makes sense that you'd pair the married couple (or, in fact, any couple that happens to be in the WP) together. 
  Posted by NOLAbridealmost[/QUOTE]
  
  Why would you be miffed? It takes like 20 seconds to walk down the aisle. No one is saying you would have to pretend that your H didn't exist all night. Pairing up BMs and GMs to walk down the aisle isn't setting them up for future romances.
  
  OP, generally, people line up their attendants with the MOH and BM by their side, and after that, either by height, or who they are closest to. There's no rule that married people must or can't walk together. If it works out, great. If not, hopefully they are adult enough to deal with it.
  
  A friend of mine, when she got married, included her FSIL (her FI's bro's wife) as a BM. This girl, who is difficult to get along with anyway, absolutely refused to walk down the aisle with anyone other than her H. (The other GMs were another brother of the groom, groom's BFF since birth that she knew well, and the bride's two brothers.) My friend acquiesed to keep the peace, but secretly everyone thought she (the BM) was nuts, especially because another BM was the FI of the groom's other bro - she walked down with one of the bride's brothers, and couldn't have cared less. (Hope that made sense.)

  

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