When we first started planning the wedding, we were going to invite about 60 people. 60 turned into 80 and 80 has turned into over 100. FI and I each have a cousin that has inquired about where their invitation was. My mother's first cousin complained to her brother that she didn't get an invite and he in turn calls my mom (he wasn't mean about it) just telling her that his sister was wondering where her invitation was. After discussing it with my mom, I sent her an invite and she better RSVP. FI's cousin called him asking where hers was and he lied and told her it was in the mail (bad response on his part).
I'm just a little pissed off because these are people who we each barely talk to and they have the audacity to ask about an invitation. My coordinator stated in a blog that if you haven't spoken to someone in 6 months for whatever reason, don't invite them. Part of me feels that they only want to come to be nosey and complain. We had to put limits on guests for a reason. The venue is already small and I don't want to be cramped in a small space on my wedding day. I've been in situations where we've been cramped at receptions and it's not fun.
Also, I sent out about 70 invitations on June 7 and as of today I received 16 back. The RSVP date is July 16. I know you're supposed to call people to remind them, but I'm not doing that. If you can't look at your calendar and figure out if you'll be there then don't bother responding. As of July 20, I'm going to assume that the non responders are not attending and leaving it at that. I need to know how much to pay the venue without overpaying and not getting my money back. Ugh!