I can't believe this is already an issue, but here we go: My fiance and I have been engaged for about 3 months and already my mother wants him to start calling her Mom!!!! Here's the kicker: His mom passed away about 4 days after we got engaged. He's still coping with this, and we both feel like it's too soon for him to call someone else 'Mom" when he is still dealing with this loss. I now have to politely ask my mom to refrain from making these comments without hurting her feelings. Has anyone else had to ask their parents to not demand that their future son- or daughter-in-law call them "Mom" or "Dad"? How did you do it? What did you say?