Is it weird that I don't want a bachelorette party?

jennyann28 · June 2010

MOH was hounding me the other day about my bachelorette party and the more I think about it, the more I don't really care to have one. I've never wanted to do the whole go out & bar crawl type, and quite honestly at this point, I'm kind of too tired/busy/broke to do an alternative. MOH told me I "HAVE to have one" or I will regret it. What do you all think? I guess I just don't feel like I need one...

jennuinne · June 2010

I think its OK if you just do a shower, its up to you. But, can't you come up w/ some version you would like? What about just a slumber party w/ your closest friends, movies, wine, whatever? That's laid back, inexpensive and chill. Or everyone getting their nails done together and lunch? I'd try to do something w/ your closest girlfriends even if it isn't anything wild and crazy.

niq24601 · June 2010

FIe doesn't get what the big deal is. Going out to a bunch of bars and having a peenis cake is not really her scene. If someone wants to throw something lower key that's fine but I think there's nothing wrong with not wanting either kind of B-party.

Koolkay83 · July 2010

Jennyanne....your not weird....if you are, then I am weird with you (horrible sentence lol) I am not going to have one myself. My MOH is barely leagal enough to buy booze. We are going to end up getting our nails done and that is about it.

apnk2005 · July 2010

Yeah, the bar scene is not really my thing anymore. We're just doing a slumber party thing at my MOH's house a couple nights before the wedding with my friends who're coming in from out of town. Laid-back, not expensive, and it gives me a chance to spend time with people I don't get to see very often...

amandasw · July 2010

I don't think a bachelorette party only has one definition - it can be anything! Maybe you don't like the 'traditional' idea of a bachelorette party, but you could still have one doing things you want to do. I had a baked potato bar and chocolate fonue (friend did it at her place) and then we went to The Garage.

Think of it as an excuse to do your favorite things and it happens to be the week before you get married

tvgal1971 · July 2010

I'm with you Jennyann...I didn't want one either!! I have no bridesmaids in Seattle, so a girlfriend insisted on inviting the gals to a wine bar/happy hour thing. I don't really want any more attention on me, but it seems that others view it as important, so I'll go along with it!

I would have gladly done the mani/pedi thing, but it would have been too complicated to open it up to anything bigger than my bridal party. I had a friend do a wine and crepes bachelorette party. It was very nice and just her speed!

melissa82 · July 2010

Yup, you're weird. Haha, jk.

You could maybe just do a girls night/old school sleepover or a spa day or something. Time with girlfriends tends to lessen as life goes on, so why not? But that's just me. I think it's totally fine to skip it if you're not into it.

sarack · July 2010

i agree with pp that you dont' ahve to bar crawl, its just an excuse to do things with your best girls before your wedding. we're doing mine the 17th. Fi doesn't want one and the more he doesn't want one, the more I don't.. i don't drink so it isn't really that big a deal... i just wana go out and be crazy!

abigailadrienne · July 2010

I agree! I didn't want the bar crawl bachelorette so my MOH (my sister) had a wine and cheese party with naughty gifts. She did the wine/cheese part as a tasting of sorts and purchased different/oddball kinds of wine and cheese that people wouldn't normally buy just to experiment. We had a blast!!! I hightly recommend doing something fun - whatever your idea might be!

I also had a friend that did the Color-Me-Mine as her bachelorette where we each picked out a piece of pottery that we would give to the couple once it was completed. It was nice to just sit around and hang out, really meant a lot since I was coming from out of town.

carrieoz_76 · July 2010

If you think of the b-party as one more check on the list, then that kinda sucks the joy out of it.

Instead, think of it as an opportunity to get your best girlfriends together to do whatever YOU want, be that relaxation time, or to go out dancing. Maybe you do this kinda thing all the time with your girlfriends, but I have OOT girlfriends who I don't get to see nearly enough who will be in town for the b-party, so I'm totally stoked to hang out with them along with my local girlfriends.

wedding707 · July 2010

I didn't want one, either. I had a few showers, and that was enough for me. FI doesn't want a bachelor party, either. I did try to convince him to do something low key, especially since I was having more than one shower thrown in my honor. In his words: "Why would I be getting married if I felt I needed to do something with just the guys just before my wedding?" He is a really low key person to begin with. I think all the atttention that will be on him at the ceremony is enough for him.

Tygirljojo · July 2010

Ditto Sara. FWIW, first off, YOU don't pay for it, your BP does. Mine was pretty mellow but fun. We didn't do a bar/pub crawl, actually only hit up one club and I was done by 1am. :P But it was fun getting out with the girls - we don't do it very often any more and it's nice from time to time.

jennlin · July 2010

i like the slumber party idea!

Kahalagurl · July 2010

We are doing a combined bach/bachelorette with pretty much all the guests in our age group. And night before wedding Im gonna have my girls over to watch my favorite wedding movies. I agree with PP, that you should use the time to spend with girlfriends and that it shouldn't have to be a drunken penis party.

carrieoz_76 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_washington-seattle_weird-dont-want-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:104Discussion:fa1a84ba-d443-4f9f-8a1a-93fc66553156Post:2e8d546b-6646-4ccc-9689-49e7628dbc93">Re: Is it weird that I don't want a bachelorette party?</a>:
[QUOTE] I agree with PP, that you should use the time to spend with girlfriends and that it shouldn't have to be a drunken penis party.
Posted by Kahalagurl[/QUOTE]
*ahem*<div>
</div><div>Not that there's anything wrong with a drunken penis party. ;)</div>

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