Indecision will be the death of me!

akbrown19 · March 2012

I know it's only one day, and it will be perfect no matter what because we'll be married and get to spend time with everyone we love, but sometimes I stress out about the vendors I chose. Not that I don't trust that they'll all do a wonderful job but reading posts on my local board always makes me want to look when I should STOP! We are investing a lot in our photographer and videographer (yay!) and I know they will be worth every penny but when there are so many great vendors out there, it's so tough to not worry about making the best decision.

When I bought my dress last month, I had serious buyer's remorse that evening because I started worrying if I could have made a better choice. I LOVE my dress, it is exactly what I was looking for, so why did I get worked up about it? Luckily that is one thing I have been able to stop looking at, but now it's the other vendors! Anyone else have this problem?

jessa1228 · March 2012

I'm this way right now with florists. I'm trying to decide between 2 of them. I made an excel spreadsheet comparing everything about them, and they are virtually the same. So now it's going to come down to which one I just have a good gut feeling about, essentially. And I do have that feeling about one of them, but i'm completely second guessing myself for some reason. Ugh.

mamameech · March 2012

I hear you!! For the most part, I'm really satisfied with all the vendors we've chosen and I have no regrets, but it's choosing all the details that is causing me more stress. Like the earrings, or which hair piece to choose, or what to do with my boudoir photos; things that aren't really all that important in the grand scheme of things (well may not seem to be important but cause the most stress!!!). It is a little crazy that I'm spending so much time and energy on so many details for one day, but it's kind of an important day lol. I'm such a perfectionist; that definitely doesn't help!

morenachica110 · March 2012

I agree with PPs. OP, I have had buyer's remorse on the dress off and on for months. But I know I made the right decision, I just need to put it on again and remember why I loved it so much in the first place. Sooo... I'm going to my MOH's house Saturday and doing just that!

I think indecision will be the death of my FI. lol! Unfortunately he's the one that has to deal with me in the long run. haha

NO2012 · March 2012

Out of curiousity, are you (any of you) indecisive in your "regular" life? Or is it only wedding related things? I am not indecisive in real life hardly at all (once I have gathered my info and informed myself) and I had no problems with the big vendors and decisions at first. Like mama, now that I am into the details, I am agonizing over every little thing and getting myself overwhelmed over things what a year ago I would have considered stupid stuff. Now it's of the utmost importance and I am often paralyzed with indecision! lol

mamameech · March 2012

I prioritize and make important decisions very quickly on a daily basis which is probably why the big stuff was easy. The more time I have to think about things, the harder it is for me.

romamor4 · March 2012

I'm having such a hard time with the little things too! The hair dresser/make up artist, videographer, and my shoes and jewelry...my veil. Why oh why is this so hard?! Everything else was pretty simple...even registering was simple! lol

akbrown19 · March 2012

Well, I feel like I can easily make the decisions as FI is very "logical" in his approach to decision making and it has rubbed off on me. The problem is the second-guessing. I am not an extreme perfectionist but tend to be a little indecisive in regular life, but wedding stuff is to the extreme! The details don't bug me as much as the big decisions. I think it's that I worry about investing soooo much money into venue (though I definitely haven't been second guessing that) photography, videography and the dress that I worry I'll be disappointed later. In most other aspects of life, I'm really confident, so this boggles my mind!

Trins · March 2012

I agree, I'm not normally indecisive but this wedding is taking me to a new level hahaha! Like some others I'm not to bad with the bigger things, although I do second guess my dress now and again, but it's the little things and personal details that are going to be the death of me

We are both pretty organized and hate waiting till the last minute so we are pretty much done everything but for some reason I keep torturing myself by looking for more things to do! Hahaha so don't worry what your going through is apparently normal

volleygurl0306 · March 2012

I'm with the ladies who are stresing over the details. The big stuff was easy for us. Individually we are really laid back (not indecisive just don't put too much weight on a lot of things) but as a couple we are pretty good about making big decisions quickly. It also helped that our wedding location is 1000 miles from where we live so we've had a weekend to see all the vendors we could and had no choice but to make a decision or sink another $400 into two more roundtrip flights to meet more vendors.

I haven't tried my veil on since June (have it and my dress but haven't tried either on) and have recently had veil remorse. I only paid $4 for my first veil so I wouldn't be losing much, but haven't budgeted to buy another. I started second guessing my shoes (love them but are they a practical heel height). Little DIY projects if they are necessary/will be nice/best use of money. Etc! Bleh!

Dayna217 · March 2012

I am glad I am not the only one feeling this way. All the details are driving me bonkers too. I am trying to make sure everything looks rights and fits in with the decor...I am doing a lot of diy paper products like our programs, escort cards, invites and ispy cards and I am worried that they wont look right...really no one will notice. I also have buyers remorse about my dress, glad I am not the only one. Feels kinda nice to hear other brides are feeling the same way I am. Makes the stressing and buyers remorse feel okay and that I will eventually get over it.

Whatever are we going to do when the wedding planning is over...and there is no details to stess about...lol

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