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Worst Wedding Ever!!!???

What was the worst wedding you've ever been to?  What are important rules of what not to do or what not to have at the wedding.

I'm planning my wedding and I want to make sure that I know what not to do?

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Re: Worst Wedding Ever!!!???

  • THIS MAY SOUND SILLY BUT AS A NICE GESTURE I WOULD ADVISE YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND TO BE TO WALK AROUND (MAYBE AFTER DINNER) AND THANK EVERYONE FOR COMING :) I WENT TO A FRIENDS WEDDING AND WASNT EVEN SPOKEN TO :( SO JUST SOMETHING TO KEEP IN MIND!! CONGRATS
  • If and when you do the traditional reception stuff (tossing the bouquet/garter, first dance, cake cutting) make sure you announce what's happening. At a wedding I attended last year the MOB along with at least one table of guests had no idea that the couple had decided to move the time table up and cut the cake.
  • Worst one was an awesome wedding but I was super preggo so I couldnt drink or even really dance....   :-(
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  • Bad DJ or music always leave a bad tone to the evening...also, when there is too long of a gap in between the ceremony and reception....which is usually ok but if guests are going to the reception and waiting for 2 hours for the B & G...not so fun.
  • Worst wedding I ever went to was a stations wedding with not enough chairs (or food).  Standing around in 4" heels trying to juggle my purse, a glass of wine and a little plate of food was a nightmare.  We left early and grabbed a slice of pizza on the way home :-)

    IMO, food and music are the two most important things to the guest experience.  That, and being made to feel welcome by the bride/groom.
  • Worst wedding was one where the bride and groom had their ceremony and reception at the same location - but the ceremony was at 2, and the reception wasn't until 6. It was so incredibly boring waiting for the reception to start.

    It's also a bad wedding if the dj/band is bad or if there isn't enough food.
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    I've never been to a bad reception.  Thankfully everyone I know understands how to throw a great party, with great food, music, and booze :)

    There was one wedding ceremony I attended where the preacher/minister started lecturing about how marriage is only between a man and a woman, and same-gender marriages are an abomination.  It was totally weird and uncalled for.   I still wonder if the couple knew their minister was going to go off on that tangent.

    I'm not a fan of the large time gap between the ceremony & reception.  It sucks to be all dressed up in a town away from home trying to figure out ways to entertain yourself for 2 hours.
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  • I am not religious, but attended a friends wedding in a church where the minister called out to those who hadn't accepted jesus to come forward to be saved. I thought it was very awkward and in bad taste, but it might just be a regular thing at this church.
    Definitely making sure there is enough food and drink for your guests is a must and making them aware of when thigns are happening. Also, just making sure what services are included at your venue and for how long. I went to another wedding at a country club where the wait staff was only scheduled for so long and if people were on the dance floor or away from the table when they were passing out cake they just didn't bother to leave any on the table and then they left for the evening. About half the guests didn't get cake and the bride was pissed.

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  • There's a whole long story behind the worst wedding I've ever been to, but the highlights: they had a gap between the ceremony and reception, they had a cash bar, and they flat out asked for cash.  It was just a tack fest.
  • I was with exBF for over 5 years at this point in time- but- his twin brother got married and my name was not on the invitation.  We lived together.  He finally convinced me to go and when I got there, a mutual friend asked why I was not at the bridal shower.  Told her I was not invited.  Told her I wasn't even invited to the wedding but BF made me go anyway.  During dinner, he sat at head table and I sat with strangers, not even the family.  Then we got in a fight because I was mad about being dragged there and left alone and he said "This is not YOUR day, this is their day, so suck it up and be nice"

    In hindsight, it doesn't even matter, I am glad to not be in their pictures because they are completely out of my life and have been for over 2 years.  I am completely happy with where I am now and think of it as a funny story as a crappy wedding...

    PS- to that bride:  Your tiara was frigging hideous (You are not a princess), so were your fake flowers, and next time you want to invite people to hang out in a backyard, make sure you have enough tables and chairs for your family.
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    [QUOTE]There was one wedding ceremony I attended where the preacher/minister started lecturing about how marriage is only between a man and a woman, and same-gender marriages are an abomination.  It was totally weird and uncalled for.   I still wonder if the couple knew their minister was going to go off on that tangent.
    Posted by Islamorada14[/QUOTE]
    WOW.  I would walk out of my own wedding if that happened.
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  • Worst wedding I've ever been to.... 2 years ago. There was just SO much that bothered me, I'll have to number it:

    1.  The reception was an hour and 25 minute drive from the ceremony site. The reception was also scheduled to start 3 hours after the ceremony ended. There was apparently a "social hour" at the MOG's house for an hour after the ceremony, but no one told us (and it wasn't announced anywhere) so we ended up driving to the reception site right after the ceremony and picked up fast food on the way. 

    2.  We had to pay for parking at the reception site (no validation for wedding guests).

    3.  When the reception was supposed to start (again, 3 hours after the ceremony), we ended up having to stand outside for a cocktail hour. This made it 4 hours...

    4.  There was no assigned seating, which made it awkward for everyone because their guests were a hodge podge of people from their lives. People were very unsure of what to do at that point. Everyone just kind of sat down and refused to get up.

    5.  It ended up being a "dry wedding" aka no alcohol. I was totally fine with it since I don't drink, but everyone else who had been waiting around for hours just kept saying, "I could use a drink right about now." (The G told me 2 months after the wedding that there was a "cash bar just around the corner outside," but no one knew.)

    6.  The food was very well done hamburgers and burned hot dogs, salad that looked like it came out of a bag, and horrible rolls.

    7.  The music that played during the entire reception was country. Now, I LOVE country music! But it just doesn't create a fun, dancing atmosphere in a posh hotel. No one danced.

    8.  The B&G never came around to the tables. When FI & I announced our own engagement a year afterwards, the B approached me and asked if we went to their wedding! ... Yes! (We're family!) We even gave you a gift! Funny how the thank you card from their wedding came one week after she asked...


    All in all, while planning my own wedding, I keep looking back at this one for things NOT to do.
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  • The worst wedding:

    1. Buffet style that ran out of food, my FMIL didn't even get to eat.  
    2. The DJ played the worst music, and at times managed to clear the dance floor.
    3. The Groom got so trashed, he had to be carried out.-Just a side note.

    The Best wedding:

    1. The music was amazing, even my FI danced the whole night and he never does that.
    2. The food really wasn't that good at all, but I was dancing so much that I forgot all about it and had an amazing time anyway.
    3. The B&G went around and talk to everyone.  
  • The only really bad experience I've had was when I went to a friend's wedding and ended up not knowing anyone there. Apparently I was the only friend from school that attended! Plus there wasn't assigned seating, so I had to try to not offend other groups that knew each other and sat together by butting in. Awkward!
  • lol, worst wedding i ever been to... the bride and the BM's walked down the aisle BARE FOOTED.  Bride insisted everyone do this... None of the girls dresses fit right because none of them bothered to get them altered... the food was catered by the gas station down the road (fried chicken and rolls i think..) and then everyone went to her dads bar... Welll, I didn't but some people did.. I was kind of done with that wedding after that...

    I also don't like to have to wait an hour or more for everyone to be announced.  Hence why I'm doing all our pictures BEFORE the ceremony so our guests don't have to wait to hang out with us.  I dont really care about the superstitions.. My cousin did all her pics but the grandparents before the wedding and everything was perfect.. you can enjoy the rest of your night instead of worrying about getting the rest of your pics done.
  • At the cocktail recption (open bar), there was just a cheese and cracker table, which was quickly empty. The wedding party got caught in traffic between the ceremony and reception, so everyone was drinking for 2 hours with no food. As you can imagine, everyine got smashed pretty quickly. When the bride and groom finally arrived, and dinner was finally served, it was the toughest cut of beef I have ever had. You needed a saw to get through it, and was pretty much inedible. The side was a very snmall serving of potatoes, so the potatoes were all that most people had to eat all day. This was the only wedding I have been to that we ordered Dominos to the hotel afterwards. And this was a fancy wedding in Newport, RI that must have cost a fortune! I still don't understand why the bride's family cheaped out on food so much.
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    [QUOTE]If the congregation has to sing during the ceremony (something I'm not fond of in general), please choose a common hymn, not one that NO ONE is familiar with.
    Posted by jenn.daniel[/QUOTE]


    Gross!  I am not religious. At all.  And I went to a wedding where BP sang to couple.  Couple sang to each other.  Family sang to couple. congregation sang to couple. etc.  I did not know the songs and it really sucked!
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