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Brian and Cori 11-19-11
A mini-vent, as I'm mostly over it now.
FSIL has asked us repeatedly whether we are doing a shuttle between the reception and hotels...which are about 6 miles apart.
While I completely see the value and "nice gesture" of offering a shuttle, FSIL has been somewhat pressuring us about it, and it came up again this week. I also know that in addition to asking for herself, she's also asking because her inlaws would be using it as well, so they don't have to worry about drinking at the reception.
It's frustrating because I feel like she's dictating how we should be spending money for our wedding, when she isn't contributing to it. Frankly, while I see the value in a shuttle, I also am of the belief that if you can't come to a wedding and enjoy it responsibly enough to get yourself 6 miles back to the hotel, well, then that's not my problem. So I'm struggling with that and the fact that I'm sick of paying for things just because other people think it's valuable. And I'm sick of having my ideas about how I want this wedding to look and having people (my mom, vendors, etc.) tell me what is wrong about my ideas. But, that's another vent for another time!
But, like I said, I'm over it :-)
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[QUOTE]A mini-vent, as I'm mostly over it now. FSIL has asked us repeatedly whether we are doing a shuttle between the reception and hotels...which are about 6 miles apart. While I completely see the value and "nice gesture" of offering a shuttle, FSIL has been somewhat pressuring us about it, and it came up again this week. I also know that in addition to asking for herself, she's also asking because her inlaws would be using it as well, so they don't have to worry about drinking at the reception. It's frustrating because I feel like she's dictating how we should be spending money for our wedding, when she isn't contributing to it. Frankly, while I see the value in a shuttle, I also am of the belief that if you can't come to a wedding and enjoy it responsibly enough to get yourself 6 miles back to the hotel, well, then that's not my problem. So I'm struggling with that and the fact that I'm sick of paying for things just because other people think it's valuable. And I'm sick of having my ideas about how I want this wedding to look and having people (my mom, vendors, etc.) tell me what is wrong about my ideas. But, that's another vent for another time! But, like I said, I'm over it :-)
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Solution: Get the number of a couple of cab companies. Make cute business-sized cards or a sign with the numbers on the bar. </div><div>
</div><div>And your ideas for the wedding are great and there's nothing wrong with them. Hang in there!
</div>
[QUOTE]I am now freaking out over the LITTLE details. What kind of hair piece to wear? What tiara to get my flower girls? WHERE IS ALL THIS MONEY COMING FROM??? I feel like I'm going broke on this wedding, which is exactly what I was trying to avoid. I wish we had just eloped.
Posted by aloisk57[/QUOTE]
<div>My thoughts exactly. </div>
[QUOTE]I am now freaking out over the LITTLE details. <strong>What kind of hair piece to wear? </strong> What tiara to get my flower girls? WHERE IS ALL THIS MONEY COMING FROM??? I feel like I'm going broke on this wedding, which is exactly what I was trying to avoid. I wish we had just eloped.
Posted by aloisk57[/QUOTE]
Crap, I need to get a hair piece. Thanks for the reminder!
And Zula, thanks for the support :-)
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/Vents : Crap, I need to get a hair piece. Thanks for the reminder! And Zula, thanks for the support :-)
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]
<div>no prob :)</div><div>
</div><div>So my vent is this: I hired a gym trainer before the wedding. She's taught me a lot and I lost a few pounds with her. But lately she's been on this big kick to have me report everything I eat. I told her prior to the wedding I wouldn't write things down, because I couldn't handle that on top of wedding stress and family stress. She backed off a bit. But now she's back full-force, and it's really a turn-off. I've flat out told her that I'm not going to report everything I eat. So now she's trying these tactics like sending me a note today, saying "I want you to borrow this book on eating healthy and read it." This isn't a nationallly-recognized nutrition book or something. It's written by a chiropractor and 2 other local doctors, and I take the advice with a grain of salt. And yesterday when I met with her she was guilt-tripping me over eating cereal in the morning. She wants me to eat eggs (seriously, told me this like 100 times) and EVERY TIME I tell her that I'm allergic to eggs and I will puke. Hello, not the way to start a morning. So she tells me EVERY TIME to eat a salad instead. I just want to say "Look lady, I'm going to eat cereal. I like cereal. It makes me happy to eat cereal in the morning." It's just so frustrating because I like her workouts, but if she can't back off of the eating thing I'm going to quit going to her. I'm tired of her treating me like I need to lose 150 pounds when I'm only trying to slim down 10 or so. </div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/Vents : no prob :) So my vent is this: I hired a gym trainer before the wedding. She's taught me a lot and I lost a few pounds with her. But lately she's been on this big kick to have me report everything I eat. I told her prior to the wedding I wouldn't write things down, because I couldn't handle that on top of wedding stress and family stress. She backed off a bit. But now she's back full-force, and it's really a turn-off. I've flat out told her that I'm not going to report everything I eat. So now she's trying these tactics like sending me a note today, saying "I want you to borrow this book on eating healthy and read it." This isn't a nationallly-recognized nutrition book or something. It's written by a chiropractor and 2 other local doctors, and I take the advice with a grain of salt. And yesterday when I met with her she was guilt-tripping me over eating cereal in the morning. She wants me to eat eggs (seriously, told me this like 100 times) and EVERY TIME I tell her that I'm allergic to eggs and I will puke. Hello, not the way to start a morning. So she tells me EVERY TIME to eat a salad instead. I just want to say "Look lady, I'm going to eat cereal. I like cereal. It makes me happy to eat cereal in the morning." It's just so frustrating because I like her workouts, but if she can't back off of the eating thing I'm going to quit going to her. I'm tired of her treating me like I need to lose 150 pounds when I'm only trying to slim down 10 or so.
Posted by zulamay[/QUOTE]
If you are paying her for a service she should not be HARASSING you.
Also, I don't know if you've ever checked it out, but I LOOOOVE myfitnesspal.com. I can't be bothered to literally write down what I eat, but I'm totally willing to check it off on an online checkbox that automatically totals things for me. Not saying you have to look into it now, but if you're interested after your wedding etc, I do highly recommend it :)
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/Vents : If you are paying her for a service she should not be HARASSING you. Also, I don't know if you've ever checked it out, but I LOOOOVE myfitnesspal.com. I can't be bothered to literally write down what I eat, but I'm totally willing to check it off on an online checkbox that automatically totals things for me. Not saying you have to look into it now, but if you're interested after your wedding etc, I do highly recommend it :)
Posted by entropicbeauty[/QUOTE]
<div>Yeah, I've tried Lose It and other automatic fitness calculators. I've come to the conclusion that it's not what I'm eating (I basically making it right at or under my calories 6 out 7 days without any effort) but I'm not working out enough. Easy fix. </div>
Anyway here is the issue, and I will try to keep this brief, I live with my parents (FI and I are building a home, and it can not be completed fast enough), my sister called yesterday and is coming into town with her kids this weekend. I can't stand when they are there because the kids are out of control and my sister feels the world revolves around her, she's the kind of person that only calls you when she needs you other than that you don't hear from her. On Saturday she wants my mom to go shopping and to get her daughter's ears pierced, etc. And it was automatically expected for me to watch her son, she didn't call me to ask what my plans were or if it was even possible for me to watch him. And now I'm the jerk because I have an issue with it. Am I missing something?
My biggest reason to move is my new "lovely" neighbors. I have one right next to me and another one across the street. The guy next to me comes and goes at the worst times and he really needs to get a new muffler for his car. His mom is there most of the time, blind, and is the crankiest old lady I've ever met. We've had the police come I can't even count how many times because she's dialed 911 and then set the phone down thinking she speed dialed her son.
The neighbors across the street are terrible. They've had the cops there for noise a few times, theirs trash always next to the house no matter what day it is piling up, and the guy and his oldest son give me major creeper vibes. Every time they see me they give me the look of a starving wolf seeing a cow.