Lost a bridesmaid today due to her scheduling conflict at her job and also the fact that I felt as though she could have worked a little harder to get the day off seeing as though I'm supposed to be her best friend (of 8 years) and she has known about this for over a year. In addition, I have taken off work plenty of times for important events/milestones in her life ... most recently, her babyshower and I got her so many gifts.
She was so nonchalant about the whole thing, I texted about the bridal shower and if she will make it "I don't know yet." .. I said, "Okay."
I texted about the wedding, "I put my request in but I won't know until a few days before if I can get the day off." Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat? I was almost to tears! I can't believe this woman just said that to me. I felt maybe I was overreacting but my FI said I was completely right about everything when I told her that maybe she should make more of an effort and be there for me as I am always there for her. She got mad because I compared people that are in her same boat to her situation (new job, baby, etc) ... I understand ALL of that but where there's a will..there is definitely a way!
Might have lost a bridesmaid and a best friend, I'm just so hurt by all of this. It's entirely too much!
Re: Another one bites the dust :(
I am so sorry. I can't believe that she would do that two weeks before the wedding. I think you should try to save your friendship but only if you think it is worth it. . The nerve of some people. Don't let it ruin your final stages of the wedding countdown.
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But can i play devils advocate for a second.
She just got a new job and depending on the company most people know that you should not take off for the first 90 days. This economy is terrible and people are afraid to rock the boat when it comes to employment. I'm not saying she couldn't have tried harder but understand that you don't know what her work situation is. I think comparing her to others in similar situations might not have been a good idea.
I wish you the best and hopefully you can find a plan B.
Regardless to the situation, the wedding day will come, and the show WILL go on!
[QUOTE]I am so sorry you are having to go through this just 2 weeks before your big day.<strong> I kind of want to think that there is more to the situation than just not being able to take off from work.</strong> I can't imagine a best friend waiting until just 2 weeks before the wedding to pull something like this when she's known for more than a year. I want to believe that maybe with the new baby finances are playing a huge part or maybe she is going through something much deeper right now for her to be so nonchalant. Regardless to the situation, the wedding day will come, and the show WILL go on!
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That is exactly what I am thinking!
You will have a fabulous day regardless of whether or not she is there --
Girl, I am so sorry this is happening to you! That is horrible. I understand not being able to make the other events but to miss the wedding? And do all of this two weeks before? That is unacceptable. She obviously does not think your friendship and one of the biggest days of your life is a priority. But don't let this get you down, hold your head up and celebrate with those friends and family who love and support you fully.