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Including DD in the ceremony

I need some ideas. FI and I both want to have a special part of the ceremony where we include my daughter somehow, recognising that we will now be a family and that FI will be promising to love her and support her, etc. We also want to give her something (that will come from FI) to symbolise this. We were thinking either a ring or a necklace... I'm not sure about a necklace because she already has a few necklaces and I don't want it to be another piece of play jewelry (even though we'd talk about its importance, of course), and since she's six a ring to fit her right now isn't a good idea. So I started thinking that maybe we could get a ring engraved for her in a grownup size and have it on a nice chain...? What do you think? Anybody else included their kids/step-kids in the ceremony somehow? TIA!

Re: Including DD in the ceremony

  • edited December 2011
    I think it would be very special to include her!  I think that your idea of giving her something is great.  I had a gold locket from my parents that had my initials on it and a picture of each of them in it.  I adored it and it was so special to me to have them with me and near my heart wherever I was.  Maybe something like that would be nice.  A ring is tricky because you don't really know what size fingers she will have when she gets older.
  • andee1353andee1353 member
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    edited December 2011
    What about starting a charm bracelt for her. One that the links could be added as she got older and you could use it as a "mile marker" for special events in her life.
  • edited December 2011
    I love the charm bracelet idea!
  • edited December 2011
    I really like the charm bracelet idea! I think a locket would be great too.
  • edited December 2011
    I love this idea!! I don't have any new gift ideas, but I think it's a really great way to include her in the marriage!
  • edited December 2011
    Thanks for the ideas! I'm a little afraid to give her a charm bracelet because my grandmother has made her several and every time she wears them, she manages to lose one of the charms! (Like, in the mall... and we just have to go back and look for it... lol!) I love the locket idea, too. Now to come up with a way to incorporate it into the ceremony... :)
  • edited December 2011
    Maybe you could incorporate her into your vows (if you are writing your own) or into the part where they ask who presents you or gives you away.  Like after your father gives you away (I don't know if you are doing that but if you aren't after that part of the ceremony) you could include how you are not just becoming husband and wife you are becoming a family and your FI plans to love and cherish DD just as much as you do.  Maybe ask the person who is marrying you what other couples have done, or ask the coordinator for your venue for ideas of what they have seen in the past.
  • edited December 2011
    MLH, yep, we definitely want to include her in the vows somehow. I'll talk to our DOC and see what ideas she's got up her sleeve...
  • SRivera09SRivera09 member
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    edited December 2011

     I like the idea with the ring.  Thats something that she could have with her forever.  We are having a sand ceremony so my DD will get to pour her own color of sand. 

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