March 2012 Weddings
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OMG!!!

I already posted about this once, about a month or so ago. But nothing has gotten better. I have so many family members that are not on speaking terms, I swear, if we weren't 3 days away, I would say forget it.

I mean we are honeymooning in Vegas anyway. Mom isn't talking to my sister(MOH), and is being sassy about my dad being there. (they have been divorced for 25 years). My aunt and my uncle aren't speaking for some dumb reason having to do with booking a private car for my grandparents. My DF and his sister still aren't talking (haven't in about four months)

I just don't see why they can't all see that their arguing has the potential to ruin our "happy day". I don't think I will ever get over it, if they can't all at least pretend to get along for our sake!! Ideas, advice??

Re: OMG!!!

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    I had/have a ton of family drama too. Parents bitterly divorced, FI's family all fighting...all I can say is this...

    It can only ruin your 'happy day' if you let it. Did my parents or FI's family get along for one day? Not exactly. The fact that you are getting married doesn't change their minds or opinons on each other.

    I had my dad walk me down the aisle with my mom sneering at him. But I still got married. I had my first dance with my dad while my mom had her back towards him. I literally had no photo with both parents (I didn't even TRY with that one!) Somehow, it worked out. Just know that you can't erase people's hurt or anger, but you can choose to have no anger or resentment.

    It is obviously a special day, so if they CHOOSE to be a part of it, they need to behave. Or be escorted out- regardless of who it is. I hope that helps. I needed to have my older sister talk to me about 30 times before the day of bc I didn't think my parents woudl behave...

    What ended up happening, is that I was so happy enjoying the wedding, that I didn't give a sht what anybody else was doing or feeling. :)

    Good luck! :D
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