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May 2012 Weddings

Is anyone else having their work impacted by the wedding???

So, I have a very high stress job to begin with and right now I am in the middle of developing the entire Veterans Benefits side of our law firm.  This job already demands more than a 40 hour week, TONS of travel and basically ALL my focus.  I was doing such a great job over the past year at keeping the wedding moving along AND killing it at work but the last month has taken a 180!  I cannot seem to focus at work bc I am constantly thinking of all the little things that I am not doing for the wedding.  I can't stay late or give it my all because I have appointments with vendors, trips out of town and need every free minute for the wedding.  I am very worried about the next 20 days.  How do I do a great job at both things!?  They are equally important to me and I feel like I am flailing.

Re: Is anyone else having their work impacted by the wedding???

  • You, despite all best attempts, can't give yourself more than 168 hours to utilize per week including sleeping. No one can and like so many other balances in life, you can't do and have it all but you can delegate (As my mentors have reminded me from time to time). 

    Can you delegate things at work or with the wedding planning? Have your fiance or family do some of the things that don't require you to be there (like getting your dress fitted)? What about delegating smaller tasks at work? At the end of the day, you can only do so much!
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  • Yes. I'm a children's librarian so i am in full-throttle mode to get summer reading program ready to roll before I leave for almost 2 weeks but considering I'm on TK now and should be writing a presentation. And I just printed my seating chart when I should have been creating contest entry forms....

    finding it very hard to stay focused on work.

    good luck to you!
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  • Say this to yourself out loud: I am only human! Try your best at both and just remember if you forget or mess up it's okay because you are human and it happens!
  •  ive been horrible. i havent been getting anything done. my works definately been taking a back seat. with home buying and the wedding, i quit my 2nd job to focus more. but i have been bored at work and daydreaming. i dont enjoy report writing and would much rather be in the field. my days drag here. but i am 99% done with wedding stuff with 3 weeks to go.
  • I hear you, I am doing a practicum placement at a womens shelter, and with high crisis clients and always busy as well as still having papers to write....I said to one of the staff the other day, that I feel bad that my attitude is get it over and done with, because it is really good experience, but I just dont have the emotional or physical energy to be there 40 hours a week plus be in the end stages of wedding stuff( not to mention at the end of an emotionally draining year to begin with due to family issues and a course load that deals with emotional subject matter) . I feel a bit dissappointed in myself, because I fell like I haven't been as motivated to be there as I was at previous placements even though its a placement that I specifically asked for.

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  • Yeah, I hear ya.  I'm kind of glad I'm taking all next week off because I just don't think I'd be able to focus on seeing patients.  It takes a lot of focus & concentration to spend 1-2 hours working on something 0.5"x0.5" through magnifying lenses, very detailed work....so no room for error!  Yesterday was a struggle and it took all my willpower to power through it.
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