I apologize in advance to the excess of information.
You know, I don't call my father as often as I should, but each time I call him, I remember why. I always hang up beyond stressed, and it ends up ruining the rest of my day.
My father is practically
insisting that Billy and I have our wedding in San Antonio, my birthplace (which I always hated) rather than Austin. What's more, he wants us to hold it at
his church, Wayside, rather than a Catholic church, which I adore and was the
one request my future in-laws made.
Nothing against Wayside and its people. But it's hideous.
Not to mention I've always felt persecuted and 'sinful' there. This is the place that made my sister into a self-righteous judgemental brat.
This is supposed to be
our wedding, not
theirs. This place in no way represents who my FI and I are as people or as a couple.
Not to mention San Antonio brings back a whole lot of horrible memories. Who is there - other than my parents, older sister, and older brother an SIL/offspring? No one who has been there for me enough to determine where we should hold
our wedding!
My sister had
her wedding in Colorado Springs! And only gave my mother six months to prepare! How is it
she gets what
she and her husband want, but me and my FI...? Too bad?!
Everyone I talk to tells me that, regardless of whether they are paying or not, I need to put my foot down and tell them under no circumstances am I holding a wedding in San Antonio. That this is just another of their attempts to control me with their money (which they have done since I was in college - basically 'whoever has the gold makes the rules') and that this is a bad precedent for the relationship between my parents and his family.
Not to mention I work full-time and can't afford to take off work to drive to San Antonio all the time to plan everything, whereas my mother is a housewife and is more flexible with her schedule.
The question is, how should I approach them about this, and what tips can you folks offer?
Why do they have to start picking fights before we've even tried to set a date?
Either way. Billy and I decided. Either it's in Austin, or it's at the Justice of the Peace. San Antonio - NO! EW!