The nerve of some people..... Kinda long y'all sorry
Ok let me start with my MOH..... She suggested her stylist to me and I am suppose to go see her tomorrow for a consultation and discuss the hairstyle I plan to wear the day of the wedding. Ok.. I gave her mad kudos for looking out for me on this because I was not sure what stylist I was going to be using. Now here is the kicker: I spoke to the young lady this evening and she briefly told me what I needed to bring and what to expect tomorrow. Ok cool. Well how about she asked me was 10 am an ok time for her to start on my head because my MOH requested to come in at 7 am to get her hair done. WTF!!!!!!!!!! Hold on, why is the MOH getting her hair done before the bride and what the heck is she getting done to her head that is going to take 3 hrs to do? Especially since she is getting her hair sewn in on Saturday. Why couldn't she just do whatever to it that you wanted done and do a simple touch up? I cannot get my hair done at 10 am. The makeup artist will be at the hotel around noon and my ceremony starts at 3. Why do I have to rush around on my wedding day? My MOH for some reason seems to think the day revolves around her. I have already had to curse her out a couple of times reminding her that SHE IS NOT THE DAMN BRIDE! I don't know what to do now. I will have to get up at 7 am so that I can stand a decent chance of getting out of the salon at 10. SMDH
Next, my DOC... We had a 2 1/2 hr meeting with this chick yesterday afternoon. We went over all the details. I even told her about me getting the fresh flowers because I came out better money wise going with the real ones instead of the fake ones (believe it or not). She had plenty of time to speak up but she didn't say anything. But she sends me an email like around 2 am with the following foolishness (and she is charging us $30 to make the centerpieces). But before you get to the email, let me ask you guys this: Isn't her job as the DOC is to make sure my gifts and whatever else she packs up get to my house? Why did she ask me about having one of my guest take the stuff to my house? Who's decorating our hotel room? Me? She didn't even mention anything about doing that either. I thought that is what I was paying her for. This late in the game she is really starting to trip. I am getting frustrated with her too! Below is the email she sent about the flowers. What would you do?
Hi Michelle and Von
I know it may be too late to do anything about it now. But real plants require more maintenance than artificial ones. I usually start making centerpieces 2 days before the wedding because, I'm busy the day before with rehearsal and finalizing any last minute details and on the wedding day there is no time. With your flowers being real, I will not be able to make the centerpieces until the morning of the wedding because most plants have to be kept cool until it is time to use them. I've never worked with real plants, I usually send my clients to a florist because florist know the proper way to care for all different types of plants, they also have large cool places to keep the plants in storage until it is time for them to be used.
Re: The nerve of some people..... Kinda long y'all sorry
As for you MOH she has lost her mind!! I wish my MOH would she would no longer be the MOH I dontg care if its 4weeks or 4 hours before the wedding she is wrong and if you have to keep cursing her out you may want to just go ahead and cut your loses with her!LOL No but I would for the last time before she gets killed that YOU are the Bride the day is about YOU and YOUR FI, NO ONE else and she CANNOT get her hair dont before you unles its the day before. If she has a problem with that then she can either deal with it or walk its that simple dont allow her to steal your shine or stress you out. BM's are supposed to be helpful not causing undo stress for the bride. It may also be a jealousy thing as well but I hope for your sake she gets over that too. Just woosah!!!!
As for the DOC, in the contract, it outlines that she is responsible for EVERYTHING! Which I am wondering why she asked us to delegate one of our "trusted" guest to take our gifts and stuff to my house. I am still wondering who is going to decorate our hotel suite. If push comes to shove I am sure my BM's can do it. And the one good thing about the MOH, she said that we can work on the flowers ourselves the night before if we have to. I am just wondering what the heck am I paying her for if she isn't doing what she is suppose to.
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As for your MOH, she is tripping. I'm not an "it's all about me" type of bride, but I WISH my MOH or bridesmaids would think they are getting in the chair before me on my wedding day. That's just plain crazy. That will have you cutting it way too close on your big day. I'm nervous just thinking about it. Please talk to her when you see her so y'all can get that handled. What part of NC are you getting married in? I have female cousins in NC...maybe they could recommend someone if you can't get the appointment changed. Or perhaps the ladies from NC on here can...
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@eagles -- in her contract (which I cannot recall verbatim because it is not in my possession here at work), she is responsible for that entire day. I have been married before and the planner I had in my first wedding gathered and transported everything to my home and gave them to my family members at the house. She also had her assistant the day of the wedding while we were at the reception decorate our hotel room we were staying in that night. The few DOC's I interviewed before going with her did offer this in their package as well. So with that being said I thought she was going to do the same. as for the MOH, I am going to chat with her on Sunday. She is the type of chick who you have to get loud with because she will argue you down. I did let her know that she is selfish as hell for wanting to get in the chair before me on my wedding and it isn't about her. She laughed it off like I was joking but I was dead serious. I reside in Charlotte NC. If you know somebody who know somebody please let me know just in case.
@TINAMM -- I have already sent out an email to her. Trust me I have spoke up. And she has an assistant working with her. That's the crazy part.
[QUOTE]@ eagles347, decorating the hotel room for the bride and groom for the wedding night is usually done by the planner or the MOH and Best man right before the couple leave the reception, they may cover the bed in rose petals, light candles, place champagne and muchies in the room for the wedding night,turn down the bed, so that when you and your new Hubby enter the room it is beautifuly lit, we all look good in candle light, smells wonderful and is ready for your first night as husband and wife.
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Yay! Sounds great. I'm excited. :)
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[QUOTE]@eagles -- in her contract (which I cannot recall verbatim because it is not in my possession here at work), she is responsible for that entire day. I have been married before and the planner I had in my first wedding gathered and transported everything to my home and gave them to my family members at the house. She also had her assistant the day of the wedding while we were at the reception decorate our hotel room we were staying in that night. The few DOC's I interviewed before going with her did offer this in their package as well. So with that being said I thought she was going to do the same. as for the MOH, I am going to chat with her on Sunday. She is the type of chick who you have to get loud with because she will argue you down. I did let her know that she is selfish as hell for wanting to get in the chair before me on my wedding and it isn't about her. She laughed it off like I was joking but I was dead serious. I reside in Charlotte NC. If you know somebody who know somebody please let me know just in case. @TINAMM -- I have already sent out an email to her. Trust me I have spoke up. And she has an assistant working with her. That's the crazy part.
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Perfect...everybody I know in NC is in Charlotte except for one cousin in Fayetteville. You may be in luck. Give me a day or so since it is late. I will get you some contacts and hopefully some photos. :)
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This is the schedule for that weekend:
The rehearsal isn't until 4 pm on Saturday. After that we part ways until the next day. What is she going to be doing so pressing that she can't devote the time to make the centerpieces that night? unless she doesn't want to work hard? And she is charging me extra to make them. I may as well take the time to do them myself. My MOH did say she and I and a couple of other folks can get together in my suite the night before and get this done. I was just blowed when I read that email.
I know I'm a little late responding to this but here goes....I agree with TINAMM, I did not know that working with real flowers would be that difficult for a professional DOC. And like you said, why didn't she say something to you at the meeting if she was uncomfortable with working with fresh flowers. I agree with TINAMM, she needs to get her assistant working or contract the centerpieces out to a professional that work with fresh flowers if the contract states that she is responsible for everything, she cannot dump that on you this late in the game. Also, you cracked me up when you said that you have already had to curse out your MOH a couple of times before...you are crazy! LOL! And why did you say that you don't want to have to cut her at Sunday Brunch!!! LOL! Girl, you are a mess. Listen, please don't do that 'cause you know I'm broke, and I can't bail you out. LOL! But you can call me collect to vent about...LOL! I'm all ears! LOL. But seriously, she is trippin! How is she going to recommend the stylist to you and then book her appointment before yours. Now, why can't she just switch her appointment with you??!!! I hope eagles can hook you up! Hey EAGLES! You know any hairstylists in Greensboro? Actually, Yas recommended someone to me, so I'm going to give her a shot.
How are you planning on wearing your hair?
As far as the coordinator is concerned, review the contract and let her know what is in the contract (gifts, setting up hotel room, etc). Also, I will be concerned about her not having done flowers before. Your wedding is not an experiment...
Sorry you have to deal with all this so close to the wedding day
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