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Courtesy Invite? What Would You Do?
Ok... So last year we were invited to an engagement party for my second cousin. Her mom emailed me and invited me. I had no interest in going, since I hadn't seen her since we were kids, however, she's engaged to an NHL player and before I even had the words out of my mouth FI said we'd be going.
Fast forward to now. I just received their save the date. I was hoping they wouldn't invite us so we didn't have to decline. But I know for sure FI will want to go to the wedding now too.
The dilemma I'm faced with now is with our guest list. Do we invite them since they invited us? If I invite them, am I required to invite her mother? What about her Grandmother (my Grandmother's sister?)
From what I've heard, my Second Cousin asked her Grandma to make her an invite list. I believe I was on that list. So I feel like its her Grand mother inviting us, not necessarily the Couple.
I'm stuck. I really don't want to add anyone to our list. I'm kinda hoping since we'll be getting married at the start of hockey season they wont come because he'll be away playing pre-season games so at that point its a courtesy invite and its more the gesture than actually wanting them there.
Fast forward to now. I just received their save the date. I was hoping they wouldn't invite us so we didn't have to decline. But I know for sure FI will want to go to the wedding now too.
The dilemma I'm faced with now is with our guest list. Do we invite them since they invited us? If I invite them, am I required to invite her mother? What about her Grandmother (my Grandmother's sister?)
From what I've heard, my Second Cousin asked her Grandma to make her an invite list. I believe I was on that list. So I feel like its her Grand mother inviting us, not necessarily the Couple.
I'm stuck. I really don't want to add anyone to our list. I'm kinda hoping since we'll be getting married at the start of hockey season they wont come because he'll be away playing pre-season games so at that point its a courtesy invite and its more the gesture than actually wanting them there.
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Re: Courtesy Invite? What Would You Do?
[QUOTE]I don't have an answer for you, but which NHLer is it????? ;) sorry, I like hockey.
Posted by TeddiD34[/QUOTE]
<div>I dont want to say... just incase she's a lurker.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Courtesy Invite? What Would You Do? : I am fricking obsessed and cannot wait for next Saturday!!!! (that's the rumored return date)
Posted by Edie Bee[/QUOTE]
I have been checking every day since the agreement was announced to see if the schedule is up yet. I've heard today or tomorrow!
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Courtesy Invite? What Would You Do? : I am fricking obsessed and cannot wait for next Saturday!!!! (that's the rumored return date)
Posted by Edie Bee[/QUOTE]
Oh my gooooooood me too!!
I kind of want to go to this wedding just to see who it is and to see what other hockey players will show up...
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Courtesy Invite? What Would You Do? : Oh my gooooooood me too!!<strong> I kind of want to go to this wedding just to see who it is and to see what other hockey players will show up...</strong>
Posted by beardownbchs[/QUOTE]
<div>FI is hoping there will be alot of players there! haha So he can rub elbows with them all! lol</div>
FWIW, we had no second cousins at our wedding. I haven't seen them since I was super little and probably wouldn't know them if I saw them face to face.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Courtesy Invite? What Would You Do? : I dont want to say... just incase she's a lurker.
Posted by ftrmrsw[/QUOTE]
If she's a lurker, I'm sure she'll be able to figure out you're talking about her. Just saying
also I can't wait either, I'm SUPER excited :)
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Courtesy Invite? What Would You Do? : If she's a lurker, I'm sure she'll be able to figure out you're talking about her. Just saying also I can't wait either, I'm SUPER excited :)
Posted by brittany634[/QUOTE]
<div>Maybe, but putting a Name out there would make it that much more obvious. So I'm just going to avoid it! :)</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Courtesy Invite? What Would You Do? : I am fricking obsessed and cannot wait for next Saturday!!!! (that's the rumored return date)
Posted by Edie Bee[/QUOTE]
Me too, Edie!!! It'll all happen next saturday - guaranteed!!
And, I totally understand about wanting to keep names "hush hush". No worries.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Courtesy Invite? What Would You Do? : I am fricking obsessed and cannot wait for next Saturday!!!! (that's the rumored return date)
Posted by Edie Bee[/QUOTE]
Woo Kings Stanley Cups Champioooooooooooooons!
ETA: There are more hockey fans on this thread than in my circle of friends <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />