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Flowers from Someone Who Isn't Invited

DanaLukeDanaLuke
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So, I have an etiquette question. 

My best friend from elementary to high school is one of my bridesmaids, and we've been friends since we were little. Her parents consider me one of their children. Due to space issues, we couldn't invite them to the wedding, but they told her they want to purchase flowers for the Bimha (it's a Jewish wedding).

My mom is nervous with the notion that people who aren't invited are going to provided ceremony flowers. She'd rather they donate to a charity in our names.

I can see why she's not sure about it, but I think it's in line with tradition. Does anyone have any advice?
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Re: Flowers from Someone Who Isn't Invited

  • midgemotomidgemoto
    Sixth Anniversary 500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    i think they need an invite...
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  • ekilzer1ekilzer1 member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    If you accept the flowers, they should be invited. 
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited December 2011
    I also agree that they should be invited.  If you're going to take the flowers they should be invited to the wedding.
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  • flower_divaflower_diva member
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    edited December 2011
    they consider you their child...their daughter is a brides maid...and you didn't invite them to begin with?    JMO   bad form....sounds like they should have been included from the get go....invite them
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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    edited December 2011
    Yep, it sounds like they should be there. 
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  • Catwoman708Catwoman708 member
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    edited December 2011
    I have to agree with all the previous posters. 

    I know it's a no-no to invite more people than you have room for, and you should always plan and budget for 100% of invited guests to attend.  But assuming you have not sent invitations yet, I think I'd chance that at least two of your other guests will decline, and go ahead and invite your friend's parents.
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  • DanaLukeDanaLuke
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you everyone for your responses! I figured that was the right thing to do, but I needed some second opinions!
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