We did this, is this okay?

bethlovesjim · August 2010

FI and I registered at 5 different stores (see our website for links to registries)
But we registered for the same stuff at each store.

Do you think that's okay? or a waste of peoples time? At the time, it sounded like a great idea, but the more I think about it, the more it seems ridiculous.

Thanks for your opinions.

jagore08 · August 2010

Five stores is a bit much and registering for the same thing at each store is silly. You should pick which store has the lowest price for the items. What are you going to do with five blenders? Three stores should be enough.

quotequeen · August 2010

No, that's not a good idea. First, you should only have 2-3 registries because more than that makes you look gift grabby, so I would recommend getting rid of 2 of those registries. Second, if you register for the same stuff, you will get duplicates. People will see that and think that you're planning on just returning the stuff for cash or for whatever else you want to get, that wasn't what the person picked out to give you. Or, you will have to be extremely vigilant about looking at each registry to remove the item from the others every time something is purchased, which will be a big pain - but even if you are planning to do this, people may think you're planning to return the stuff instead.

gottahavashorti · August 2010

It comes across as gift grabby. Cut it back to 3 registries and only register for each item once unless you want multiples of an item. Also, remove any personal information from your knot account/bio - including registry information. Internet safety and such.

jennylove810 · August 2010

Can I ask why you thought that would be a great idea?

I'm not trying to be snotty, I'm genuinely curious why you did that.

danieliza1127 · August 2010

It seems to me that you'll end up with a LOT of duplicate gifts because if people chose the store they want to shop at, they won't know that someone might have already bought you that gift off on of your other registries.

I think 3 registries should be the max and you should avoid duplicates.

Also it's a really bad idea to have your personal info on a public message board - like your full name, address, or registries.

deepcovejackie · August 2010

Yeah, not a good idea. You're risking duplicates, as your guests won't know what's been purchased at other stores. Are you letting them know to check all 5 registries to make sure "their" gift hasn't already been purchased?

deepcovejackie · August 2010

Hi again Beth--You should probably take the link to your wedding website off of your siggy. It's got your first and last names on it and alot of private details. You can make a wedding bio specifically for the Knot that can be more internet-safe.

skippylouwho · August 2010

I think having the same thing registered at more than one store is fine and this is why - particularly with china/crystal/flatware and Macy's and Bed, Bath & Beyond. They both run sales but usually at different times. When I'm gift shopping I check both to see which one has the sale price and then that's where I buy it (I usually give those items wedding gifts).

I do think 5 registries is excessive unless you registered at store because you know a lot of guests live near it but not near any of the others.

SparrowSong · August 2010

You'll be spending a lot of time returning stuff.

No one is going to check all the registries, compare what's on each one, and then decide. They'll check one, find something to buy and be done without knowing four other people bought the same thing they did, just at different stores.

It really doesn't make any sense.

MNVegas · August 2010

5 registries for the same items?? Think you went a little overboard unless you want 5 toasters, blenders etc.

noodle_oo · August 2010

Holy GIANT registries Batman! Yeah, I'd delete 2 of them (I think more than 3 is really gift grabby unless you are having over 300 guests, maybe you are?). I'd suggest getting rid of Target (people have lots of problems with it) and either Kohls or Williams Sonoma (the WS looked the smallest).

kristinanddan · August 2010

Holy not ok! Like the others have said, 5 registries is crazy. Aside from that, registering for the same thing 5 times is triple crazy. What are you honestly planning on doing to control that? Monitor all of your registries 24x7? Because you know, if 2 people buy you blenders, and neither gives you a gift receipt, you have to go through the annoying hastle of getting store credit. It really gets to be a giant pain.

Theresa626 · August 2010

Oh that is the worst idea ever in the world. Five different people are going to buy you the same thing and you're going to waste all of your time trying to return four of it. Only register for something once at one store. I would pick your three favorite registries. Of those make sure at least one is nationwide and a brick and mortar store. Have all the things you need the most at that registry and other stuff at the two other registries.

bethlovesjim · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_did-this-this-okay?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:3ba0f258-49d4-47ff-9a98-d2655586c2bcPost:4cc71153-3a78-4006-8f24-596571238be0">Re: We did this, is this okay?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think having the same thing registered at more than one store is fine and this is why - particularly with china/crystal/flatware and Macy's and Bed, Bath & Beyond. They both run sales but usually at different times. When I'm gift shopping I check both to see which one has the sale price and then that's where I buy it (I usually give those items wedding gifts). I do think 5 registries is excessive unless you registered at store because you know a lot of guests live near it but not near any of the others.
Posted by skippylouwho[/QUOTE]

This is exactly why! that and our guests are spread out from Washington state, to New England. I have no idea whats around them or where they shop. I dont want a lot really, But I thought it was a good idea to give lots of options.

My least favorite registries are Khols, Target, and Williams Sonoma (mostly because of the prices)... I think I will delete those.
FI wants to add an REI registry. If I delete those 3, then I think REI would be an appropriate addition.

P.S. Good advise about the privacy thing. I will fix all of that. Thanks

mysticl · August 2010

Here's the thing about your guests being all over the place and having different stores in their area.....................they can shop online. It no longer matters if half of your guests don't have a Macy's or whatever in their town. They just go to the website, log into your registry and purchase the gift.

I know people who have registered for the same thing at more than one store and always thought it seemed kinda stupid.

loop0406 · August 2010

5 stores is too many in my opinion

gottahavashorti · August 2010

For things like dishes and flatware where you'll need multiple place settings, I do think it's nice to split them between a couple registries for guests who want to compare sales. But I'd still stick with no more than 3 registries, total.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · August 2010

That seems kind of ridiculous.

Personally, we have a "main" registry at Crate and Barrel and we supplemented it with linens at Bed, Bath and Beyond.

beamer84 · August 2010

As for the number of registries, I think it depends on what the stores are. We had 5 registries, but only because FI wanted Cutco knives and I trust Sears more than the other stores for major appliances (our Sears registry only had 1 vacuum cleaner and 2 pillows, which were a bit impulse-y). Otherwise, we would have had 3 (2 main ones and 1 small one). There were no repeats across our registries.
I don't agree with registering for the same item at different stores, unless you want multiples of that type of item. It's time-consuming to track what people bought, and people aren't always good about getting it checked off on your registry when they buy it. (This happened to us on a few things.) So, if someone doesn't have the paperwork in order, you may not know they bought the blender at store X, and you may end up with 2 blenders from store X and one from store Y.

catemeg · August 2010

REI is a fun way of giving people an alternative way to give gifts (I'd rather give a couple something they'll enjoy together outdoorsy rather than towels. For some reason, I just can't get excited about giving someone towels.) If you cut out 3 registries, you could probably add REI.

About internet safety, you don't want anything from this website to link to your full name or email address. First names are typically okay (especially if they're common) but links to registries let people know your full names. If you have a blog that you use for TheKnot, you want to make sure it has no identifying information (full names, birthdays, address, phone number, place of work, etc.)

ecuchika · August 2010

I would reconsider having the same thing at different stores for all the reasons listed above. We may be right up there with you on the number of registaries though.
I want BB&B for the obvious reasons
FI wants a tool place and possibly something like REI
and I have to registar at Belks--but this will be the smallest I have family members that will only shop there for wedding gifts so if I don't have a registary there I will be getting something from Belks might as well pick something I like out.
But I wouldn't pick the same China and add it to all places that carry it.

sjmchambers · August 2010

I actually did the same thing, albeit unintentionally. What about combining the registries together on something like giftregistry360, deleting the repeated items, and having one all-together registry? We had a few items we liked from 3 stores, but only have a 50 piece registry on one website.

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