I know everyone has a unique and amazing story of how they met their love of their life, while mine is unique it is also truly something I never anticipated. The Story~ This whole story starts at one of the local Harley Davidson shop. My dad bought a Harley three years ago. As I started looking for a bike in March of 2008 and I met my boyfriend at the HD shop through my Dad. We started talking and found out we had crossed each other's paths for the past ten years as well as we had some of the same friends...the big kicker - we never once met. We exchanged numbers and he told me to come hang out - well, I stood him up because I was tired, so he deleted my phone number out of his phone. So, to make a long story short, I didn't see him at the shop for about a month (not knowing till after the fact that he would go and hide if I was with my dad but would hang out with my dad if I wasn't there) and when I finally saw him again, he told me to call him if I wanted to hang out. So, that same day after everything that day, my dad goes "you need get out of the house, why don't you go hang out with Scott?" Of course, this is not my dad...at least the one I know or at least thought. So I called him and of course he was shocked. We hung out and when we left downtown, he walked me to his car, drove me to my car, followed me home and made sure I got in okay and then he left. I was on cloud nine! About a month and a half later, he asked permission from my dad to date me and we've been together ever since. The dilemia~ Since we started dating we've known that we were going to get married and so has everyone else. Pretty much since a month or two after we started dating everyone has been asking when we were going to get engaged and get married. He has always said a year of dating and a year of being engaged. Well, it got to the point everyone was asking him about when he was going to purpose and at the time it was agrovating to the both of us. Now he is saying he isn't going to purpose until everyone stops asking... Well, now the dilemia...we technically started dating June 28th and the year was June 28th of this year...its now almost the end of October and still no question popped. We don't live together, I never stay the night at his house and we don't plan on doing this or sleeping together till we get married. And furthermore, we have a 17 years of age difference between us and its not a big deal between us but when it comes to kids, I would like him to be around to see our kids have grandkids. So yes, I am excited and anxious to get married because I cannot wait live together and have him by my side each night. So my dilemia, he hates to plan anything (because of some other past experiences) and I feel like I am the one getting punished for everyone asking about the purposal. So my question is what should I do???? Neither of us want to have a big wedding - just immediate family and a couple very close friends but we want to have a big reception. I really don't want to ruin his idea of a purposal, but I am so close to saying lets just elope and not worry about any details, engagement ring, wedding dress...but I want to still plan my wedding. So I am torn......and while I am not resentful about his waiting to purpose, I guess I am resentful to everyone who keeps asking. So, anyone who has some advise for me, please post..... :-) Thank you in advance and I enjoy reading everyone's posts.
Re: 1yr of dating, 1yr of being engaged...still waiting...
Whatever you hatters be hattin. -Tay Prince
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Married 9/15/11
*This is Not Legal Advice*
I moved in with him, and my family bieng very religious, were super offended about us living together.... my life was a disaster, I was moody allt he time, worried, anxious, wondering if he would even get around to it. I felt really taken for granted.
and for that period of time, i created a lot of problems in my head that never existed.
...to make the story short, seriously, if you have discussed it before, be sure that it will happen. and dont bring it up over and over again....it puts them off...int his case, it wasnt you , it was yoru firends and family that have done this.
My suggestion is to talk to them, seriously and ask them to stop, and explain that they really need to take a step back. and talk to him, and tell him how you feel.
and then just relax and let it happen and enjoy