So, I have a kind of weird situation that I need opinions on. All of this information I got from my grandmother, who somehow seems to always know everybody's business about anything... haha. Anyways, my grandfather's sister is invited to the wedding and is the only person on our whole list invited with a "plus one" that is not a specific significant other, since she lives far away and is older, but is single. We assumed from the beginning that she would bring her adult daughter (who is married) with her, since none of my mother's cousins are invited [there's about 30 and I don't know them].
Anyways, I get a forwarded email from my grandmother from my mom's cousin, M to her mother, A. It got forwarded on to me because it had several questions in it, like where they should stay and such. However, also in the email was this:
"I am delighted to accept your generous offer to have me as your "plus-one" at Christine and Zach's wedding in Florida. I will have to be a 1 1/2 as I will bring E, though I doubt anyone will mind a lovely baby girl at the festivities."
Umm...what? So, I email back my grandmother saying that it will not be appropriate for her to bring E (who is 18 months old) to the wedding, due to the quietness of the ceremony, etc. This woman is being invited as a plus one, so I don't even really know how to address this. Also, I know from my mother that E is noisy and very active and generally not the kind of baby you want at a wedding. Currently the youngest children invited are in the wedding, and they are four and a half. Huge difference in age and personalities.
Anyways, I think this is all settled, but my grandmother emails me back and says that she had already told A that it wouldn't be appropriate to have E at the ceremony, but they wanted to know if she could just come to the reception. I have no idea. So, A M and E will travel about 1000 miles for M and E to stay at the hotel for the ceremony and then join in for the reception. I don't really even know what my opinion is about it. My mother thinks it would be fine for them to just come to the reception, but FI thinks that we shouldn't just give in to them asking when we didn't even invite M specifically in the first place and don't really want to have to deal with a rambunctious child that we don't even know. So, what do you think? Am I just being difficult if I say that we don't want the baby there at all? Am I being unnecessarily annoyed due to the fact that she would just assume that noone would mind her bringing her baby? Sigh.
TIA!